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To be a bit [hmm] about backing up DP's ex's compo claim?

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BitOfMischief · 18/05/2009 17:08

Right, have namechanged (slightly) just in case someone wants to prosecute me or something...it isn't me guv, ok?

I got a letter from a solicitor this morning asking me for details about some uneven paving slabs ? It says it is in relation to a compo claim by my DP's ex, and she has given them my name. It says "WE appreciate that you didn't witness the accident, but may be able to help us with some history", i.e. describe the condition of the street, how often I use it, whether it's been repaired lately etc

So, is she "at it"? Do I just answer the questions - I don't have to lie, I guess. To my knowledge she hasn't had an accident at all, but is skint.

She is waiting for some money from the sale of her old business, and offered to help us out by buying something off DP for a grand and letting him buy it back whenever he wants to for the same money because she knows we are on the verge of bailiffs ourselves. So should I co-operate, as she is clearly doing us a favour, or is it a bit cheeky of her to ask (well, she didn't ask!)

Maybe DP was supposed to forewarn me...he is rubbish at stuff like that

C'mon, what should I do?

OP posts:
wolfnipplechips · 18/05/2009 17:11

I would have expected to be asked at least. I would just answer the questions with the truth.
YANBU

BitOfMischief · 18/05/2009 17:32

The thing is, it doesn't even say where the street is...just some too-dark photocopies of crazy-paving that I don't recognize. I'm a bit stumped as to what I can say really...

OP posts:
differentID · 18/05/2009 17:35

Contact them back and explain that you are unable to comment.
Just going to point out, if she is on the take, then you could be classed as being complicit in fraud if that's what is happening.

BitOfMischief · 18/05/2009 17:40

Would it be wrong just to answer the questions honestly if she tells me where the paving stones actually are?

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OldLadyKnowsNothing · 18/05/2009 17:59

If you answer the questions honestly I don't see how you'd be complicit in any dodgy claim. You're not saying you saw her have the accident, just that you know the road (assuming you do, once you find out which road it is ) and the state of repair of said road.

TrillianAstra · 18/05/2009 18:01

If you know or find out where it is then there should be no moral problem at all in just answering the questions honestly - you won't have done anything wrong.

BitOfFun · 18/05/2009 18:32

Cheers guys, er, on behalf of my good friend the OP. She will just answer the questions I think, and avoid asking the woman in question whether she has actually hurt herself.

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