To go out when the in laws come round?

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Just cant be doing with them.
Only ever see them when they want something.

Its been 6 weeks since they saw ds (only gc) and they only came round as they needed to check the internet for a holiday they have booked themselves.

I am so irritated by them, that when they arrived i put out their meal then left and didnt come home till late. Left dh and ds with them.
Am pig ignorant arent i.

YANBU, they sound like my MIL and SIL. The only times we have heard from SIL this year were to ask us when we were going to see her and her new baby, to ask when we were taking her DS1s birthday pressie round, and to ask DP to go and fit a carpet for her!!! I don't think MIL has seen the boys at all this year

LOL! Sounds totally understandable, pig ig. or not!!

TBH you are being a bit rude, but I don't blame you.

To be fair i HAD to go out and take the play date child home, it was after tea 6ish.

then had brew with friend. went home at 9ish when i knew they had gone.

In that case then YANBU.

Still had rude intent though

wont see them for months again now.

well I only see my inlaws about 3 or 4 times a year
do they live close by?
how often would you like to see them?

they live about 15 minute drive away.

TB totally honest im not bothered about seeing them often, but it would be lovely for them to offer to take ds to the park for an hour or something every now and again.

When i had a mc, dh had to ask them to watch ds for an hour while he visited me in hospital, this mc, nothing from them at all, not even for an hour.
But then something wrong with their car...they are straight round to dh to fix it.

irritating.

As you are the mother of a DS I would treat them the way that you would eventually like a DIL to treat you.

Yes but i think that i would actually like to spend time with my only gc, i would actually like to help out my son and his wife at a very upsetting and difficult time.

I have too high expectations i guess

Well I expect op is likely to behave differently when she becomes a mil so that's not very relevant advice! Ithink yanbu

they maybe don't come round very often as you don't make them feel particularly welcome?

not very nice for your ds surely?

That is a strong possibility actually wilko because although i do try to not show my irritation.....they may pick up on it.

It isnt nice i know but i cant help it, its how i feel.

Would you be irritated by this?

yes i would definitely

but i would probably try and make an effort with them for a bit, then if they still only showed up for car repairs/ internet usage etc and still didnt bother to come round more often i would know they were definitely taking the piss!

then the gloves would be off so to speak

but for all i know you have already tried this tactic, if so then no YANBU