I will try and cut a long story short, but I tend to waffle so you have been warned.
Ok, when I left school i went to college to do a childcare course. As part of the course we did placements. My first one was with a childminder who lived a few streets away from me.
I went to hers 2 days a week and helped with all of the children but mainly her own (she had 3, aged roughly 6mths, 6 and 8).
I also did week long block placements there. We got on fabulously and became friends.
During my time there her marriage broke down and so I spent an increasing amount of time there looking after her kids and helping round the house. I also babysat (paid) when she went on courses etc.
She met a new bloke, and I met xp through her, and we'd go round hers to have a drink, babysit, have a laugh.
As time went on we saw them less as I had my own children, and we also moved further away (not alot but further than walking distance). We only then really saw them occasionally and would send xmas card.
The last time I saw them was just before xp moved out. They turned up on the doorstep and stayed for a couple of hours and we chatted about lots of stuff, and also told them we were splitting up.
Since then I have only ever seen their dd (who is now 21 ), as she works by me. Anytime I see her I ask about her mom, and tell her to say hi for me, and I also gave her my number to pass on to them. Heard nothing from them but wasn't really surprised.
A while ago their dd added me on FB and then a few weeks ago I noticed that her mom had joined. I sent a friend request which she accepted. I then wrote on her wall asking how everyone was and got no reply.
I also commented on something she'd written and again no acknowledgement.
Then xp asks me if I know she is on FB. I said yes and that I added her a couple of weeks ago. He then says, did you know xyz about her ? Turns out he had messaged her and she'd replied and messages had gone back and fourth.
Have just spoken to xp this morning and he asked if i have been invited to their party for her dp's birthday. I haven't, but xp has.
Now I am pissed off and upset. I knew her for far longer than xp and in the time I was closely involved bent over backwards to help her out yet I am not god enough to speak to or get an invite to her party, yet xp is.
I know I probably really shouldn't care, but this isn't the first time that something like this has happened to me. People only seem to like me when they want stuff from me. But when it comes to being friends, and social events I am not wanted.
I don't get it.