to want a bit of me time????

[scodgie]

I'm sat at home, having had the children (lovely though they are)all week whilst DH away at work and all day today whilst DH plays sport. DH has now rung to ask if he can stay out and go clubbing (!!!!!, he's rubbish at drinking and dancing). Tomorrow he's playing more sport, which, in fairness, I do fully support. Just fancied a bit of a moan at my lot in life. I need a good massage! I am very lucky to have two very healthy happy children but can't help but feel I have had my identity removed. I know I,m not the first and wont be the last.

YANBU - I would not be a happy bunny if I was you!

Nope, YANBU at all. I'd be very pissed off too.

So, do you get to go out next weekend?

YANBU.

This is my "me" time - late at night when everyone else is asleep!

Book yourself me time with him and don't take no for an answer, and then he can see what it's like to be the only parent for a weekend. Yea, I am suggesting going out all day sat then ringing up late to say you'll be out all evening then maybe staying in bed all day sun or going out again.

YANBU in the slightest

Oh god! Another one! No, ya so nbu!!! But he is......hugely. Why do you accept this? It's rubbish! Or is it a one off?

If one partner in a relationship is getting lots more free time than the other, there is a problem that needs addressing. If you are already aware that you are going out to play next wekend while he does the childcare, then your relationship is fine.
Otherwise the situation is that he thins he's the Person in the relationship and you are the 'woman' domestic service agency.

Thanks for messages, made me feel better about my funny five minutes. All is not lost....next week he is taking the children to watch sport whilst I go to Spa, yipee! Mind you, it's a rare occurence so I need to keep on demanding time for me whilst he deals with vomiting/hungry/tired/bored children. Just once a month would be enough.

Don't be too easy on him on this issue scodgie - don't think about it as you being 'selfish' in some way; your kids need to have time with their dad on their own. If he works all week he needs to use weekend time to have sole care of them. I found with DH this has been SO important; it's not the same having family time with you there as well, important though that is as well.

It's just so important that he does something with them each and every weekend I would say.

You need the same amount of childfree/chorefree time as he gets. End of. DOn'[t allow him to get into the mindset that because he is in paid employment, he is more important than you and that part of your job is servicing his needs.

I would be LIVID!
Keeping up his hobby is great, yeah, but he needs to factor it into the time he spends with his family. Not just his children, but YOU too. Family first, sport second. I think you need to spell that out to him.
Oh, and book yourself a FULL day out next weekend.