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to wonder if i'm paranoid or they really are out to get me?

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canigotobedyet · 16/05/2009 18:42

It's my birthday. So far (18.30h) I have exchanged about 3 sentences with DP: he has been off playing sport, spent some hours in front of his computer, and has now gone out with his mates (who include women - I don't get invited, as don't the various partners of the men, because the women don't want other women there).
Phonecall to my family: at no stage does anyone say happy birthday. My Mum gets on, addresses me by the name she used to use to humiliate me as a small child (it has never had any positive connotations) and asks if I got the lottery ticket she sent, "because she thought that'd get a rise out of me". She knows i think lottery tickets are a total waste of money. She knows I loathe the name she uses. She asks what I have planned for the day, when I say "not much" she uses it as an opportunity to tell me I should be shacked up with one of my sister's ex boyfriends from 10 years ago, since he at least knew how to treat people (abusive git banker who handed out tiffany jewellery and swore at everyone). My Dad gets on and tells me I know nothing about computers or astronomy repeatedly, then gets off. My sister gets on and asks whether the child's jigsaw she sent me turned up "I know you don't have time to do jigsaws in your job, but I thought the box was pretty and [her] dd didn't like it anyway". At that stage all I'd said was "thanks for the lovely present"!

And no, i don't have time to do jigsaws. Particularly ones with 12 pieces. I'm a bloody surgeon, I do squishy smelly jigsaws all day every day...

I know I'm a boring humourless moaner who needs to lighten up, but does this actually seem extraordinarily horrible as a birthday to anyone out there?

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GentlyDoesIt · 16/05/2009 19:32

No, let's send a fantastic female stripper to the DP wherever he is, just to annoy these twatty women who can't function socially in the presence of anyone else with a vulva.

mrsboogie · 16/05/2009 19:32

If you're asking whether you are being taken horribly for granted by all and sundry - then the answer is a fecking great big yes!

You're a surgeon - take a fucking scalpel to that bloke's nether regions and wear his nadgers out of on the town for earrings.

Oh and speaking of out on the town - I would so not be there when he gets home tonight. D you have kids/babysitters ? I'd be out with the girls or booking myself into hotel with a nice bottle of champers and leave him wondering whether I was ever coming back (somethng you ought to be thnking about too if he thinks its more important to indulge some silly mates who can't stand other women around for fear they might not get all the attention).

Happy Birthday

make sure you spend the next one with people who appreciate you.

GentlyDoesIt · 16/05/2009 19:32

warthog my pleasure!

Dysgu · 16/05/2009 19:33

Oh dear - I really feel for you and want to say Well Done for being a surgeon - kind of well done for doing so well despite such a toxic family.

Happy Birthday - and what an excuse to treat yourself to a lovely Tiffany gift!

Salleroo · 16/05/2009 19:52

Happy Birthday.

What a bunch of prats on your b'day.

I always wanted to be a surgeon, you are seriously cool!

Can you find anyone at short notice to go out with?

Boys2mam · 17/05/2009 12:32

Afternoon canigotobedyet - Happy Birthday for yesterday. Did you end up doing anything in the end?

Boys2mam · 17/05/2009 12:33

OMG - I'll try that again....

Afternoon canigotobedyet - Happy Birthday for yesterday . Did you end up doing anything?

katiestar · 17/05/2009 19:48

YANBU
I am hoping you will come to back to this and say your family and DP were having you on and had organised a surprise party.
If not...How dare your DP treat you so appallingly ?It's true that you can't choose your family ,but you have every right to expect your partner to put your feelings before those of his female friends.Especially on your birthday.You can do better than that.
BTW I thought working time directives applied to doctors now ?

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