to be really pissed off with his boss wife

[slushy06]

I am 32 weeks pg so my dp notified his work months ago that he would require paternity leave. However apparently as three people are off my dp bosses wife has urged to think of the company before taking the two weeks paternity leave. She also complained that I was having a Vb as this left the company in a bit of turmoil if I don't go exactly on my due date. So her answer to this was my partener is urged that if I go early to not change the dates of his paternity leave. When my dp told her there was no way to plan these things she said 'yes there is your girlfriend will have anti natal appointments every week from 36 weeks and they will know when I am going to go in to labor. I don't have weekly appointments. None of this has been said in a unpleasant way but it is a threat and the last three people urged to think of the company that disobeyed were made redundant. What bugs me the most is she is just the bosses wife. AIBU to consider doing something v nasty to her car or her person.

mrsblanc You obviously have not read the entire thread and have just come to start an argument at least read the whole thread before you judge me I had already said I was joking and venting in my next post. Thanks to all the advice I received I think I will ask to move his pat leave forward so as to avoid hassle I will probably be happier anyway if my family are not constantly visiting through his paternity leave and I get to spend the two weeks just the four of us at a later date.

I have indeed read the entire thread,have not the slightest desire to cause an argument, have lots of sympathy for your situation, but thought your your joke was in the worst possible taste.

As someone who has been the victim of violence - I was beaten up in the street by someone who took exception at something I did I am probably more sensitive than most.

Your original problem is, sadly a very common one. I know several male friends who have had to specify weeks in advance when they would take their 2 weeks paternity leave. One of them said to their boss "Hold on let me get my crystal ball.."

mrs blanc I am sorry you have been a victim of crime. Surely you understand I have vented these hormonal angry urges on mn in order to avoid me saying anything that would hurt this lady's feelings. At the end of the day i am sure that even you have sometimes thought of doing something unreasonable in your head as a way of dealing with a situation that frightens you and you have no control over. My mum was also a victim of a street attack about 4 months ago and it really upset me so I do apologise if I brought back any bad memories. However no one is perfect and I'm sure we are all guilty of saying or doing something that would hurt people's feelings. I realise there are many people in the same boat as me just as I'am sure you to know that there are many who have been victims of violence. I only posted to make myself feel better about the fear that I may lose a lot me and my dp have worked to build. I.E house and job.

Also its quite unrealistic for a 32 week pg woman to be physically able to cause phyisical harm to anyone other than herself let alone sneak around at night in order to slash someones tyres. Hardly inconspicious.

slushy, my apologies

she is bu

your dp is entitled to paternity leave

ignore her

Totally confused. This is second 'bosses wife' thread this week iirc.

Your husband works under his boss, not his bosses wife. Any grievance he has is with his boss.

Is it just easier to blame women or what? Since when have wives of employees been held accountable for what employees do in the workplace? The boss does what the boss wants, and if he does it on the advice of his wife then he alone is responsible for that.

Blame the boss! Not the wife!

if i was your DP i would make it very clear to boss that he has noted all comments made by bosses wife and that if suggestion of redundancy is made he will be going to a tribunal with all this information as it is clearly linked to your DP taking paternity leave. and do take note of anything further that is said. i would also refuse to discuss any work/paternity leave issues with bosses wife. unless she actually holds a position in the company.