To not accept this person as a FaceBook friend

[StripeyKnickersSpottySocks]

I guess some people use FaceBook for different reasons but to be honest I think its slightly strange that she's asked me.

I really only have FB for close friends, including a lot who have moved overseas and old uni mates who I don't see often. Its great for keeping in touch with them.

I work as a midwife and someone who I met through work, for a couple of hours has requested me as a friend. Its not even as if I was her community m/w and we built up a relationship over a period of months, I looked after her in labour. I don't know her, she seemed nice but I don't want to be her mate. But likewise I don't want to offend her by declining her.

YANBU. I am always rather surprised to see people on FB with 'friends' into the hundreds and sometimes into four figures. Are these real friends? Surely not. I have a friend who has regular Fb 'spring cleans'. Keeps numbers down to about 30.

No IA! it's not just you.

I sometimes forget i am pushing forty with 2 children. I expect everybody to be delighted if I even glance and smile at them.

hello. reality check ms beauregarde.

Bonneville, my young cousin, he's about 19, he has about 280 friends (i'm not one of them) and yet, if I ever see him and say, hello Edward, he crashes into a doorframe and grunts, head down as he scurries away to avoid a possible conversation. He must be able to talk though???? or maybe he can just click accept very well.

I sent a friend request to a teacher at my dcs' school. I'd chatted to her quite a bit and seen her socially a couple of times. All the same, when I sent the request I was careful to add a note saying 'if you don't want to be friends with pupils' parents, feel free to ignore'.

She didn't ignore, and now we are friends. But I get requests from people I've never even met (friends of friends) and am always very when they don't even send a little note. And then I reach for the ignore button.

My children's teachers aren't on fb. (i've checked of course).

In fact,when my dd1 was going into her new class last year, I said to another mum I'm friendly with, "oh I googled him and nothing came up". She laughed and couldn't believe I was admitting that. I said, I do it for all the teachers! my other child, I googled the teacher and she obviously loves horses a LOT.

why not just accept her friend request, then delete her after a couple of days? she wont get offended then, and she wont be informed of being deleted....

Most likely she has just joined facebook, and facebook has selected her email adress and sent a bulk invite to all her addressbook, that is what usually happens. Just ignore it, she might even be mortified when she realizes what has happened.

Having said that, people really are quite desperate to build up a large portfolio of online friends. I dont see the allure personally, and I just dont get why anybody would want to add as a friend somebody who isnt really a friend.

Have checked FB for the teachers (obviously) but not thought to google them

She doesn't know my email address so it can't be an auto address book thing. Think I'm just going to leave her in limbo land and neither accept or ignore.

I google DD's teachers as well, never found them on the net anywhere. But I'd never request them on FB if they were on it.