Because I get upset my 5 year old is being teased about his new glasses?

[Jofo]

I don't show in front of DS but I feel so sad when he tells me his 'best' friend is teasing him about his new glasses at school. Do I ignore this, tackle it or let the teachers deal with it? Would be grateful for any advice.

I'm surprised he's getting teased - my ds (rising 6) has worn glasses since he was three, and has never mentioned being teased about it. But then the glasses are a new thing. I'd maybe have a quiet word with his teacher, just to check if they're aware.

YANBU, bless you....I wore glasses from the age of 5 and was teased mercilessly...my Mum never said anything, looking back I wonder if it upset her too?
I'd have a quiet word with the teacher...maybe she could make the point in class of saying "Wow! Look at those fab glasses that X has got! Aren't they cool!" or something inane but positive?

Wouldn't want DS to start getting into tit for tat but as I help at the school once a week maybe I could make sure bf gets less snack than the others . Have told DS that bf is probably jealous and wants glasses of his own.

Will have a word with the teahcers and see what they can do.

Do you know the best friends parents at all? Can you have a word - not your son is teasing my son, more it would really help if your son could say something nice because ds is sad about having to wear glasses type approach?

When my ds started to wear glasses I was incredibly grateful to his then best friend because his first reaction on seeing them was "cool". It probably helped that HP was at that point still aimed at younger children (I'm not sure that effect is still true for younger kids now). The friend in question was unsuitable in every other way, but for that one comment I forgave him his violence and bad language pretty much forever!

I would have a word with the teacher. A boy in ds's class wears glasses and he is desperate to have some too (he is 4). He thinks that they are very cool.

I would speak to the mother if I thought it would do any good but unfortunately she thinks her DS is beyond reproach. Not that my DS is perfect but I'd like to think that I do know when he's being mean or naughty.

Theres a Charlie and Lola where Lola is desperate for new glasses as her friend has them.

I'd have a word with the teacher so that they could do a circle time about everyone being different etc

Thanks CMOT. I will try to get the book and get the school to read it to them. I don't want to go over the top though and make it worse. Sure it will settle down in time but it breaks my heart when he is upset. Also, his glasses steam up if he cries!)

Ah Jofo, that's why I would avoid any suggestion of blame and try wrapping it up in a 'because the children are friends it would really help my ds if your ds could say something positive' (without suggesting that he had in fact been pretty nasty) line. But of course that's a bit a)grovelly and b)ideal world that it might work!

Good luck with it, my ds has more recently become anti glasses, and it is a bit of a struggle (although I love my glasses so am a good role model there)

Thanks to you all - feel more positive about it now and will mention it to his teacher so she can keep an eye on the situation. Sure it will all die down and he will just look 'normal' to them all soon. xxx

The novelty will soon wear off especially if your DS doesn't rise to it.

Hopefully it's just this week's news and it will all be forgotten next week. I feel for you though, it's so hard when they're on the receiving end of this sort of thing. My dd is a glasses wearer too and also has a patch, thankfully she's never had any problems - possibly because she isn't the only on in her class and possibly also because she's worn them since before she started school so all her schoolfriends think it's normal for her. It will be normal for your ds and his friends soon enough, although a word in the teacher's ear wouldn't hurt in the meantime.