to ask DP to take DD2 and fetch DD1 from school

[GreenMonkies]

and take them for a quick play in the park (next door to the school) so I can get his tea made in time for him to take it to work tonight? It's his last night tonight and then he has 4 days off, he's lazed in the bath and on the sofa since getting up around noon, and had a bacon buttie and coffee served to him.

So, am I???

My dp would love to get some quality time in the park with ds while I cooked dinner. Why would that be unreasonable.

YANBU

Of course you're not - is this an issue of dispute atm?

He did go, but with an audible "humf".

Frosty I am very jealous, when he comes in at 5.30/6ish he basically goes to bed, generally as we are getting up. When he first started doing nights (and we only had DD1) he used to come in, make me a coffee and help me get DD dressed and out the door for work/nursery, now he just heads to bed and can't even contemplate staying up and helping me get the girls breakfasted and dressed ready for school/nursery/work. How things change....

It's not an issue of dispute as such, but it's one of those "the woman does the childcare" assumptions that seem to happen even with the most "modern" of men. He sleeps 5 or 6 hours in the morning (5 or 6 hours unbroken sleep is a good night for me!) then gets up, has a coffee, bacon buttie (which he manages to make for himself when I am not here, but mysteriously can't do when I am ) and just mooches around, soaks in the bath, surfs the internet and chills until it's time for him to get ready to go back to work about 4.30ish. Leaving me to do the tea/bath/bed thing by myself.

I didn't think I was BU, but it's still nice to know I wasn't!!

LOL well I'm not getting pregnant again to see if that works!!!

He's pretty good most of the time to be fair, he makes, or at least starts, tea on the days that I'm at work and he's not, including when he is then going in to do a night shift. Obviously he does the school runs on the days when I am at work and he is home! He does laundry and tidies, he'll put the dyson over the floor and empty/fill the dishwasher on his days off too.

It just bugs me that on the days when we are both home I do all the school runs and cooking etc, it is almost as if my presence renders him unable to do any of it. It can be very frustrating to have to ask him to do something as basic as this, especially when, as you say, I was making his tea so he could take it into work, not sitting on my backside eating chocolate!

We do like the random 4 days off, they can be very useful during the school holidays etc, but sometimes the disruption of his sleep/mood etc is a pain in the arse. Ahh well, tonight is the last one for a while, so life will settle again until the next set....