In wanting to just piss off away for the weekend with the kids without DP?

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DP, has been working this weekend. Well he worked yesturday then went straight to his friends house to lay laminate flooring, he got in last nigh knackered dinner and a glass of wine waiting for him.

This morning he went to the allotment, he let me have a lay in til about 9.30am then went, he took one of the children with him then dropped him back this afternoon so he could go round his friends to finish laying the flooring.

AIBU in just being pissed off i've spent the weekend by myself, I got stuff in for a BBQ and he has just told me he is going to be another few hours yet. I am starting the BBQ without him now.

I have £400.00 in the kitchen for a dishwasher. Sod that, if I'd have known i'd have take the kids to Alton towers or something for the weekend.

I'm not pissed off his round his friends laying flooring, but I'm pissed off i've been alone this weekend when I could have been doing something fun

AIBU if I did do this?

(in preperation for next time)

surely a dishwasher would be more beneficial to you?

you can get the friend whose floor has just been laid free of charge to install the new d/w

to be honest he is doing things for others i rarely see my dp either and i can get times when i think i wish id done something else

my dp by the way would never give me a lie in and would never take ds out to give me a break lol tell him you want quality time this weekend im sure he didnt want to spend all weekend working and would rather be doing something fun he sounds like a nice caring guy

i dont plan time with dp now if we have time then great i'll take myself and ds off out and then arrange to do something together when we get home

good idea bigchris and yes a dishwasher would be more beneficial.

I probably am a moaner.SOCD I have just been pottering around doing F All this weekend and I felt like I could have done more instead of wasting it

I don't think YABU if he knew what he had planned for the weekend and didn't tell you, so you could plan something more interesting than waiting for him to join you as a family.

Tbh sounds like he puts himself out for his mate quite alot maybe you say that next weekend is "family time" no favours for mates...

If he refuses this then you are Def NBU.

As a one off tho' it's not unforgieveable

I know what you mean about a "busy" husband but tbh you don't need to go and spend £400 just to get back at him!

Just have a discussion about how it's a pain to be left hanging around waiting for him to come home all weekend, and tell him that next time you would like some warning so you can organise something fun to do while he's busy.

YANBU - it is sh*t to be on your own for long periods with children ...

Perhaps the thing to do is not to get annoyed with him (easier said than done!), but to make some plans to go away and do something as a family sometime...