to want to go away for a weekend without baby when he is 10 months old?

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i won a weekend away in dublin, my partner and i could really do with some us time after our first baby and all its ups and downs.
my mum and dad have offered to look after bab
and he knows them really well as he spends 1 day or more a week with them anyway.
MIL thinks bab is too young to be without his mum and dad for 2 days and that we should stop being selfish and not go.
part of me really doesn't want to go and leave him cause i will miss him loads, but i would love to be able to have some grown-up 'couple' time!
what would you do?

GO!!!

My mum looked after my DD for a weekend when she was 9 months old, while me and DH went to a festival.

That was 10 years ago.

We have never spent another night together child free since.

Grab the chance while you can.

Oh, you should absolutely go! I had to go away for a wedding when ds1 was 8 months old and business when ds2 was about the same age. they were FINE.

Go, enjoy and ignore MIL.

Go go go! Have an amazing time. My parents looked after our little boy for a week when he was 11 months old and we went snowboarding. It's a lot easier for grandparents to look after non-mobile babies than rambunctious toddlers so definitely take the offers while you can! We had a great time and so did they, even though we spent the whole time texting and talking about him! Like everyone else says, enjoy having a bit of time to yourselves as a couple.

Go go go go go!!!!

I booked my wedding when I was pregnant and decided (well before having baby) that we would still go on honeymoon - we went to Andorra skiing instead of the safari we really wanted to do as we didn't want to be more than a few hours away in case of emergency. My dd was 7 months old.

We slept, slept, slept, slept, slept, had 'couple time', got drunk, had loads of fun.

I missed my dd like CRAZY and on the last couple of days couldn't be parted from my phone, texting and calling my parents constantly to see what she was doing, and looking at photos of her - but it did her no harm, she still knew who I was when I got back and my parents loved the bonding time.

Have fun.

good god woman GO!!!

your in laws sound just like mine, it is either jealousy or old fashioned values (i was told i shouldnt go to Harrogate for the weekend at 7 weeks PG as i should be at home for my 'confinement' FFS!!).

just think how heartbroken your own mum and dad would be if you said you werent going and they couldnt look after DC coz MIL said you shouldnt.

i agree with all the other posters, you and DH need quality time together and it is lovely that your mum and dad feel confident and want to spend time with DC. your mum and dad are equally entitled to quality time with their grandchild.

i am due my PFB in 3 weeks and my sister has kindly offered to look after our DC if we want a night away for our wedding anniversary in august, DC will be 2 months old by then and we are seriously considering it. I just know that FIL will have a fit but he can go sing for it!!

GO GO GO GO GO and have a fabulous time, drink Guinness, see a band, have lots of sex without the third person heckling you

Go go go go go go go.

Lucky you.

Go, and don't look back!!

I'd go.

I'd go. It won't harm him in any way - in fact it's probably easier when they're that age than when they're 2 or 3 and that much more aware.

Go for it. Your DC will be fine.

Go! My friends were going to 4 day fesitvals when their DD was only 6 months and left her with grandparents. I went to weekend wedding when DS was 9 months and left with grandmother. 10 months is perfectly fine - you sound like you need a weekend away - don't feel guilty - enjoy!

YANBU I wouldn't but that's just me. It's fine though if baby with family/good friends.