Or is it a bit cheeky to ask someone else to go and collect your ebay bargain?

[philopastry]

A friend has just phoned and asked me to go and collect a highchair she has picked up on ebay for her. SHe lives 100 miles away from the seller I live in same city but right on the other side. It is going to take at least 1 1/2 hours out of my day.
She earns really good money and could easily afford a new highchair ( plus she is only a few months preganant with first one so it is not exactly pressing).
I am feeling a bit irked because I think she thinks as I am a SAHM I have all the time in the world to run errands for her.
I will do it - and have not been off about doing so - but really I don't want to encourage her to do any more of this ebaying lark and think I will collect and store for her. Got better things to do with my time!

So AIBU to feel put upon?
Be honest I can take it.

No, I think you are perfectly reasonable.

What cheek on her part.

don't do it, she should have checked with you before buying.

She should have asked you first before bidding. YANBU

But she's still got to come and fetch it from you! I would have asked before bidding, it is a bit presumptious. YANBU although she probably thought "oh philpastry lives in xxx, she can fetch this thing I simpy must have"
I'd agree to do it this time but say how far it is and that you don't want to do it again

no yanbu, she should have asked you first and then bid.

It is cheeky. We have done it but only for very good friends and it's always a pain unless literally next door. DH does not even like collecting MY purchases!

YANBU she should have checked 1st with you.

OK - good, thanks for that, glad it's not just me being a grumpy sod.

Will collect it this time but ask her (nicely!) not to ask me to do it again.

We've done this for my SIL and she has returned the favour for us.

We both asked first though!!

Bit cheeky to just assume. I would say to her that you would prefer if she asked you first and to get the postcode of the seller so you can check how far it is away.

I think to ask someone else to collect somethin is fine (we have done that many times). However, we have always checked out the postcode and asked the collector first before bidding.

tell her to get a courier, shouldn't cost more than £7.00

YANBU. She could get a courier for very cheaply - probably cheaper than it will cost you in petrol. Some people are very cheeky, eh?

If you collect it then I wonder if next week she will invite you to come visit [Grin]

I think she is really cheeky, has she offered to pay your petrol? Just tell her that you can't get over that side of town for at least a week and it will take you 1.5 hours so would she mind using a courier please. Then ask her to please check with you first next time to avoid putting you in this awkward situation again (I find that expression works a lot when turning down favours that people have asked me!)

Flibbertygibbet, I admire you

(took me years of passive agressive stress caused by people taking advantage of me to come up with that one )

How is she going to get the highchair from you?

YANBU-She should have checked with you first. Perhaps she assumed that it was close to your part of town, but even so she has a lot of cheek!

I bet she expects you to take it to her too. I had a friend like that. Soooo frustrating. I'm toughening up now.

I am storing it for her until she visits in about a month. Not great as there is no room at the inn as it is! It is really unlike her to be thoughtless tbh - she has just got married and i suspect it is her new dh who is they ebay fan - she is even more of a luddite than I am (MN aside obviously)

Surely its a bit premature... if she's only a few months pregnant, she isnt going to need a highchair for at least a year (((bizarre)))