For being uncomfortable about his ex?

[CrazyNites]

DP has been divorced for two years, seperated for 3.

His ex often texts him and asks if they can "chat", if which she goes on about her current partner and how awful he is etc.

She also goes down to DP's house to use his washing machine whenever she feels like it.

I'm supposed to be moving in there in a few weeks and am not happy. I'm not a jealous person but she's getting on my nerves a bit.

AIBU?

yanbu
do they have kids together?

yes and she lives with her dad. But the ex goes down when the daughter is at school. She doesn't make any effort to see the girl and the girl can't stand her.

It's like she goes down to see DP more than her daughter. I think she see's her daughter once a month or so.

Ye not be bein' unreasonable lass, i be making her walk the plank, arrr

okaaay ....

pmsl!

YANBU at all.
MY ex was far too friednly with his ex and it bugged the hell put of me. I KNOW there was nothing in it, but I just don't think it's on.
When you move in and there's another woman's presence in the house, she might hopefully back off. If not, have a word with your DP.

Doesn't her dad have a washing machine?

Hopefully your presence will scare her off, does she have a key?

Lilaclaire.. That was my first thought, then re-read and realised OP meant the DP's and EX's daughter lived with her Dad

I dont think anyone needs to be a jealous or possive partner, to not be put out by these circumstances

I get on very well with my ds dad, my partner is very aware and unthreatened by this, however, i certainly wouldnt be talking to my ex regarding my present partner etc etc, as much as my current partner trusts me 100%, this behaviour would be adding fuel to a fire

Yanbu, the most secure, trusting relationships would struggle to understand this situation, regarding the washing, ffs, they split up 2- 3 years ago, she should have saved enough by now to even buy a second hand washing machine, id put my foot down and demand she does her smalls in the launderette in future, esp as you have plans to move in

Hmmmmmmm utter cheek of some people

I would move in then if she still comes round buy a new washing machine and give her dp excuse gone. YANBU

YANBU. I would make clear before moving in that ex doesn't use the washing machine. My husband only talks to his ex about the kids. I wouldn't be happy if they were having cozy personal chats together, similarly my ex and I only chat about the kids. I wouldn't mind her coming to the house to see kids, provided agreed in advance, although sounds as though that doesn't happen.
I would discuss all this before you move in.