To think that ds1's teacher was wrong to shout this at him?

[TheLadyEvenstar]

ok, now some of you know i have issues with ds1 but none of them are to do with school. The school have always sat him on his own for various reasons but mainly due to him being bullied.

Anyway today he was sat with another child for the 4th time in a week. Last week ds1 had his science revision test taken away by the teacher because the other child had accused him of using his pencil, so ds1 took another out of his pencil case handed the 1st one to the other child and carried on with his work. The other child threw the pencil at ds1 and of course like any child of 10 ds1 reacted. So he ended up in trouble.

Today the same child was sat with ds1 and kept talking to him, ds1 replied and got in trouble again.

Ok fair enough he should not have been talking in class, what I do not like is the fact that the teacher shouted at him

"There is no point you coming into school for the sats tests I am not wasting my time or energy on you anymore"

Now I have to point out here that ds1 is a very bright child, and walks the tests with greatest of ease. But I feel a comment like this should not have been said by a grown woman to a child of 10.

I have spoken to the head teacher, well deputy as head is off and she has said, well there is no choice he has to do them.

I am aware of this but am I wrong in thinking this is a bit of a rough comment to a child?

YANBU, out of order, very. I am, almost, more shocked that the head teacher was not more cross TBH.

King was not sure if as he is my PFB i was being over protective tbh

I don't like that teachers pick on certain children, them getting in trouble when other children caused it. My godson has ADHD and gets into trouble for fighting, and it usually turns out he was reacting to someone else who hasn't been labelled. Teachers should open their eyes to what's going on around them IMO

Things like talking to someone who is talking to you is, usually, just a life lesson. However saying something hurtful and belittling to a child, any child, is wrong. It does not matter if the child in question has a long history of difficult behaviour or is the golden child, no teacher should use demeaning words or actions.

King, the thing is in school he is a good boy, at home on the other hand...well thats a different matter!!!

Sounds exactly like all of mine - especially the youngest

I don't really know what to suggest, I suppose I would be tempted to go to the teacher and ask her if there has been any problems with ds in school and why she felt the need to say something like that to him. It could be that she was having a bad day and snapped but that is not good enough, or it could be that this is the way she usually speaks to them when they push her which is also not good enough! Hopefully she will say that she was fed up and snapped and that she is going to talk to ds about it!

One of my lecturers was talking about a very similar situation today.
She said that she was placement in a school and the teacher was shouting at an 11 year old child calling him worthless. Lecturer actually tapped teacher on the shoulder mid rant and said, im that boys mother, the teacher nearly shit herself. Lecturer says, im not his mother, but his mother could be behind you one day when your talking to child like this, always bear this in mind.

She had similar situation with her own child and said to teacher in question, I don't mind you disciplining my child, but do it as if I was standing behind him, because one day I will be.