I am due to move in with my partner and his 12 year old daughter in a few weeks.
It is a 3 bedroomed house and I have 2 boys.
It was agreed early on that my boys would be sharing a room and would therfore need the bigger bedroom. He said it was fairer that way and spoke to his DD who, after initial disapointment agreed too and said she would move into the small bedroom as long as we decorate it to her liking and get her a space saving cabin bed. We saw one which would be perfect, wardrobe, drawers, shelves and a desk all under the bed. She loved it.
Anyway I was talking to DP last night and the conversation went like this:
DP - "The first thing we need to do is sort out the kids bedroom situation"
me - "yes, it is ... "
DP - "Well, we can't really expect the boys to share that small bedroom, it wouldn't really work out ... would it? ... or would it? I mean ... girls have more stuff don't they?"
I made it clear that I'm not wanting to kick her out of her bedroom but if it was a case of my kids having to share a boxroom (they would have to get rid of most of their stuff, and even then they'd have no room in there for anything other than bunk beds and a set of drawers) I would prefer to stay living where I am. He quickly agreed that it wouldn't be fair and we would stick to plan a.
But this got me worrying, is he testing the water with me knowing full well that once I've moved in his DD won't move out of that room?
Am I being unreasonable to insist that my kids get the bigger room? Even though she was in it first?