to be pissed off with dh ex behaviour

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she seem to whatever she wants to whoever she wants and nothing ever gets done about it. I am reeling at the moment, so much so that i have booked an appointment to see a counsellor this week

Not sure if YABU need a bit more info...

please sombody calm me down I feel like i could burst this evening having had MIL and step son on phone to my husband all afternoon. I feel a massive part of my life is dominated by her and her behaviour

she is moving AGAIN which of course means step son is moving school AGAIN, this will be his 4th home and third school, he has had three 'daddys' and god knows how many 'mummys friends'. the fact that she has not even told my husband, this has all come via an email to MIL and from step son who is 9! He is the boys father FFS
she dumps step son on my inlaws at every opportunity, they 'cant say no' because they dont want to upst step son but the apend all the time on the phone to us moaning about it and slaggin us off to everyone for not supporting the situation

OK right deep breaths, is she a bit of a mentalist who likes getting attention from people be it good or bad attention?

well yes, I have only actually met her once and thats was when we went to court, she is so abusive to me and tries to convince everyone,that I am the one with issues, that i feel threatened by her!!!! she is a nightmare and is ruining my step sons life and future and it feels like there is nothing we can do about it. and in doing so she is pretty mch ruining my marriage

Would it be worth asking to have residency?

well me and dh have discussed this many times, thing is,we just cannot afford any more legal stuff with her, we have spent thousands on letters from solicitors and getting PR (not that its made ANY difference). I just feel exhausted with it all.my relationship with step son is pretty terrible and I hardly see him now at all, thr trouble his mother has caused has led me to cut him off really, and because of all this he prob wouldnt want to live with us

Oh dear that is very difficult. All your dh can do is keep in contact with his son and leave the door open for him when he is old enough to want to spend time with your dh.

well yes thats what I am thinking. I just wish almost that we could turn our backs until then which I know sounds awful and not fair on step son but only way to get her out of our lives.

she is now having a baby (allegedly) and that has upset me too because our dd is desperate for a sibling and keeps asking me why I cant have a baby and we just cant afford it. its so unfair that she does nothing and is a terrible mum and can just go and have another one because she knows she wont have to pay for it

used to have exactly same behaviour from my partners ex,its infuriating,can only say it gets better with time,i spent too much wasted time feeling how you do now!really do sympathise..the things we do for love!!