to be farked off with farking 'friends'

[mrsalexanderarmstrong]

Had 2 girl friends over last night for chat + food + wine.

I had busy day and thought English style high tea would be nice - you know the kind of thing, teeny tiny sarnies and fancy cakes, chocs and champers. Anyway friend 1 comes in and says sniffily "Oh, sandwiches" and huffs and puffs at lack of 3 course meal. Still scoffed everything though.

Friend 2 picked at sarnies and then proceeded to lecture me on my current issue with dh, totally TAKES DH's SIDE (ok, fair enough I suppose may well be wrong ). But honestly she was blardy ranting at me for ages.

Anyway, I am narked at them both.

AIBU to kick them to the kerb.

Or should I calm down a little and get a life?

Ha yes, bloody ingrate.

I do agree that friend 2 (grudgingly) had a point but FARKING stop lecturing me. So bloody self-righteous. Unfortunately this is not the first time they have got me steamed up so I may well, gracefully, withdraw from future meet ups.

I'll drink my own bloody Champagne. Eat my on sandwiches. ON MY OWN if necessary.

Get some new friends . . . . grumble grumble.

Quite right, more cake for you

Nom nom and thrice nom. If I showed up at a friends house and they gave me sambos, cakes and champagne I would be delighted. If the sandwiches were tiny that would just make it seem even better.

The taking your DH's side issue is more complicated. She might be right. But she's your friend, so really she should try to make her point without making you feel like she's taking sides against you. Whatever the issue is, making you feel defensive and angry isn't really going to help, is it?

If she is right she should have a quiet word with you about whatever it is instead of going in like a bulldozer in front of people. This is worse than moaning about the food, some people are naturally a bit whingey.

Well feel free to invite me over, I would have loved the sarnies and champers, said my pleases and thank yous and not taken sides over the relationship thing...blardy friends give them another chance on this occasion as it might have been a one off.

I'd have been narked too, if I was invited to dinner on a Saturday night and all I got was chuffing sarnies

Grrr namebacon, you can nick off too . The rest of you I'll see you next week for Champagne and fancies.

if there were cakes, I would be well chuffed

and champagne

ooh heaven

gossip?

even better

and if I had a point to make, I would make it tactfully, possibly not on this girly evening that was all for fun

YANBU

High tea sounds fab - love when friends do something different from the norm - and champagne too! Your friends should make you feel good about yourself - YANBU

Mmm, champagne.

Any inadequacies in food (not that I'm saying there were any, but hypothetically) can be compensated for by champagne!

I tend not to eat much at these girly gatherings anyway....

just gimme the alcohol and the chat

that is all I need

but ikkle sarnies and cakes sounds fab to me

What is it about some friends that feel they can berate you for ages about something personal? Isn't that rude? I'm sure I was always taught that it was RUDE to lecture people on a personal topic.

So ill brought up. hrumph.

High tea? YUM! Personally, I could live on meals like high tea and hors d'oevres and so on. What a lovely idea for matching the gorgeous weather we are having too! Get her back when it is high summer and your friend will presumably be serving Irish stew. As for the other one, I'd have been tempted to clock her one with the champagne bottle tell her that her opinion was duly noted, and then pointedly change the subject.

curses lack of strike-out skills

God I would have loved that The opportunity to eat high tea drink champers and slag off someone elses husband!Whats wrong with them?Don't they watch sex and the city?

I agree with Noddy.

Selfish fuckers.
Sounds fab.
Have me next time.

how unspeakably rude

don't waste your lovely posh tea on them

invite ME as well please, i am well polite innit