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Original poster

To think the middle of macdonalds is not the place to change a nappy?

43 replies

feedthegoat · 02/05/2009 20:59

I know I'm going to get told I deserve it for going in there but what the hell! A woman at the next table to us changed her toddler on her knee and put the dirty nappy on the table whilst she dressed the child. No excuse for that anyway but there was nothing wrong with the toilets. Minging!

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Thunderduck · 02/05/2009 21:03

YANBU. That's rude and vile.

2cats2many · 02/05/2009 21:04

No worse than what they put in their burgers IMO

ABetaDad · 02/05/2009 21:08

Oh that is nothing compared with what I saw a few years ago in quite a nice top end restaurant.

I was having a nice lunch with my wife and DSs and the women on the next door table suddenly picked her baby out of the pram slapped him on him on his back among the cutlery, wipped off a really steaming nappy, wiped him, put on a fresh nappy, and popped him back in his pram and carried on eating without wahinh her hands.

Put me right off my lunch that.

Jaquelinehyde · 02/05/2009 21:11

Was is a pooh nappy or wee nappy?

Pooh, yuck go to changing room.

Wee, pull yourself together woman nothing wrong with that.

NoNameNoOtherAlias · 02/05/2009 21:14

YANBU

Thunderduck · 02/05/2009 21:16

I think it's gross to change either a 'wee' nappy or a 'poo' nappy in the middle of a restaurant, and even more so if it's placed on the table.

Original poster
feedthegoat · 02/05/2009 21:37

It was a wee one (I think as I didn't smell anything) but I think it's irrelevant. Putting it on a table someones going to eat from is foul!

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fulltimeworkingmum · 02/05/2009 21:49

Completely gross - it doesn't matter whether it's Macky D's or the Ivy. People are eating there and nappy changing is a no-no unless in the loo. YANBU

misdee · 02/05/2009 21:51

[holds up hands] i changed dd2 nappy on my kneein macdonalds years ago. the changing table had been ripped from the wall, and the floor was flooed in ladies an disabled loo, i didnt check the gents. i didnt put the nappy on the table though [yuk] and had to clean my hands withbaby wipes as the toilets were a hazard. i bagged it all up and put it in the bin at home.

herbietea · 02/05/2009 21:52

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chipmonkey · 02/05/2009 21:53

Technically, if it's just a wee nappy it's OK but despite knowing this I would still find it gross!

chefswife · 02/05/2009 21:53

yikes. me and two other mothers just did this... we changed our LO's diapers on the outside table at a cafe. mind you, we were the only table out there and we laid down changing mats too plus they were only wet diapers and we wiped down our hands and used anti-bacterial gel... three new mothers and perhaps a bit neurotic about cleanliness. i did have concern though when the boy was change, what with their unpredictable weeing nature.

gross though inside a restaurant with others near by.

CandleQueen · 02/05/2009 21:54
chipmonkey · 02/05/2009 21:55

Of course, it it was a cloth nappy it would be fine because you get a halo for using them and Can Do No Wrong.

littleboyblue · 02/05/2009 21:57

I've done it. My local McD's doesn't have a disabled toilet downstairs, so if I need to change a nappy, I can't go upstairs leaving the other dc downstairs, and I can't take them both upstairs on my own.
I've also done it in shopping centre food courts if the queues for changing rooms are too long. I even once changed a nappy down an aisle in Woolworths. And on the bus.

misdee · 02/05/2009 21:58

no it was a dispoable back then, it was befoe she became too big for dispoables and we switched to cloth.

laumiere · 02/05/2009 22:19

YABU. I've got a DS with a physical disability requiring him to be in a pushchair (and in nappies at 3) and a 10 week old baby. Our local McD's has toilets on the first floor, so there is no physical way I can get the kids up there to use the facilities. Sometimes you do what's easiest.

Original poster
feedthegoat · 02/05/2009 22:36

Laumiere thats fair enough but she was with a friend and the downstairs toilets were empty, 15ft away and spotless. I just don't think she cared tbh.

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violethill · 03/05/2009 10:00

That's disgusting.

Mums who do this fall into one of two categories - either really thick, and just don't realise they're doing something wrong, or totally obsessive PFB and actually believe that the whole world ought to see their baby's arse - it almost seems to be a badge of honour to change their baby wherever the biggest audience is.

As it was in McD's, I'd guess this woman was the former category!!

starlightexpress · 03/05/2009 12:47

Well...I'm totally by this now, but when my DS1 was a tiny I did this loads (though not in McDonalds, as wouldn't darken the doors).

It was a pfb thing, I think. I was so wrapped up in DS(and also so fucking tired)that it didn't even occur to me that it might be gross for other people. My darling baby needed changing goddamn it, and it wan't going to be in some stinking loo! Wouldn't dream of doing it now.

So, YANU. But I would maybe be charitable and think that she will look back in shame one day soon.

onagar · 03/05/2009 14:22

You may all be annoyed on principle, but are any of you really upset to see a full nappy? Even I got used to that and I'm a man so don't have the nappy gene (just kidding )

Personally I was never skillful enough to do it on my lap, but I know those who can do it so fast it's like a conjuring trick.

Maybe it depends on circumstances. A changing room is better, but suppose you just got the other three kids settled at the table and to take them all (plus all coats/bags etc) to the changing room seems like a huge undertaking.

juuule · 03/05/2009 14:27

I wouldn't have a problem with the nappy change but would have a huge problem with it being put on the table.

juuule · 03/05/2009 14:29

chefswife "we changed our LO's diapers on the outside table at a cafe. "
on the table ?

juuule · 03/05/2009 14:32

I've done it. But either on my knee or on a changing mat on a seat or the floor.
And not just with my Pfb

ABetaDad · 03/05/2009 15:58

onagar - I do not have the nappy gene either but have changed loads of my own kids' nappies and shovelled literally thousand of tonnes of manure elsewhere but:

"You may all be annoyed on principle, but are any of you really upset to see a full nappy?

Yes I am upset when it is a real steaming green liquid nappy being changed within eye shot only 2 metres from my table which I am paying an arm and a leg to eat at!

I am amazed that people even think of doing such a thing.