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To be absolutely livid with DP's 'friends'?

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Supercherry · 02/05/2009 20:34

After a long day and a big food shop, we had just got back home after driving a few times round the block to get DS to sleep, I popped in the house leaving DP to get DS out the car when I hear a commotion- lots of yelling and peeping of horns- when I look outside in a panic, it's DPs 'friends' pulled up right next to DP deliberately papping the horn and shouting to wake my little boy up . They succeeded and he looked pretty bewildered too

They had gone by the time I got there and I saw that DP was actually smiling as if it was all a big joke. I was furious and asked why he hadn't had a go at them, told him he needed to grow some balls etc and he actually had a go back at me. I demanded his phone so could give them a piece of my mind but he wouldn't hand it over.

DP has gone back out now to get DS back to sleep. I am fuming.

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Nekabu · 03/05/2009 09:13

"demanded his phone so could give them a piece of my mind" O M G! And you have the cheek to say you told him to grow some balls!

Did his friends being dicks and waking your ds really give you the right to be so extremely rude and disrepectful to your dp and to then carry on the row, sending a message to his friend?

purepurple · 03/05/2009 09:18

I think YABU
tbh, your baby is your number 1 priority, but he isn't your DP's friends number one priority, is he?

Yes, he was inconsiderate, but to be livid is a bit OTT
and to demand your DP's phone is excessive

CapnScurvySeaWitch · 03/05/2009 09:28

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Supercherry · 03/05/2009 09:32

I asked DP to phone them and tell them it was out of order and when he said no I said 'well I will then- give me your phone'.

They did need telling, I'm sure none of you would be pleased if someone deliberately woke up your baby. Just because it's 'laddish' behaviour doesn't excuse it- what if it was a group of girls would you be so forgiving then?

In context, we have had issues over DP continually putting friends and family first, we had a long day and had planned on watching something on the TV at 8pm but our plans were messed up. Time alone together is precious.

Anyway, thanks for your replies but none of it really matters anymore as the relationship has been shit for a long while now and he has left this morning. I'm just over 3mths pregnant and now I'm a single mum- a thread in relationships maybe?

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Supercherry · 03/05/2009 09:37

Thanks Capnscurvy and the other YANBUs, it's nice to know someone has the same view as me on this.

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gingernutlover · 03/05/2009 09:57

supercherry so sorry to hear you are having a bit of a rubbish time.

In asnwer to your original post I too would have been livid, dd is a rubbish sleeer at 3.5 and was horrendous at 15 months, my brother once woke her up when i was obsolutely knackered and needed to go to sleep too, he simply couldnt undertsand whatt he problem was - people withoput babies can't see the problem because they ahve never been sleep deprived and have never had to get an overtired, tetchy baby to go to sleep.

So YANBU to be fuming but don't expect anyone other than other parents to understand that.

Hope you are okay, keep smiling and keep your chin up. Have you got some friends/relatives who can help you out?

oliviasmama · 03/05/2009 10:12

supercherry I think your line ....."Anyway, thanks for your replies but none of it really matters anymore as the relationship has been shit for a long while now and he has left this morning" says it all really. Things that may not have been such a big thing to you normally are made so much worse when your having a rough time. Hope your ok, perhaps you feel better now he's gone if things have been that bad?

oliviasmama · 03/05/2009 10:12

supercherry I think your line ....."Anyway, thanks for your replies but none of it really matters anymore as the relationship has been shit for a long while now and he has left this morning" says it all really. Things that may not have been such a big thing to you normally are made so much worse when your having a rough time. Hope your ok, perhaps you feel better now he's gone if things have been that bad?

oliviasmama · 03/05/2009 10:12

oops

PadDad · 03/05/2009 10:14

Sorry to hear your news supercherry. Thinking of you at this tough time.

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Supercherry · 03/05/2009 17:44

Thanks for the supportive messages- feel a bit silly now though because he came back after 2hrs. We do have our problems to work through but I don't think I can face the Relationships threads just yet.

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WoTmania · 03/05/2009 20:07

YANBU
I would have been livid too. DS1 was a nightmare to get to sleep and if this had happened (especially them doing it deliberately). Well.....
It sounds like it's just that straw that broke the camel's back

janek · 03/05/2009 20:18

yanbu, it's bad enough to wake a sleeping child deliberately. if you are pregnant when that happens it is the end of the world!!! when i was pregnant last year i was livid about everything, it is all much more black and white when there are hormones involved. i really feel for you. and reiterate YANBU. i liked the idea of calling the gobshites at 6am. a landline would work best of course, you can turn a mobile off.

SnortyBartFast · 03/05/2009 20:20

silly mates but perhaps he was just being friendly?
glad he's back.
try staying calmer

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