to expect my husband to come home when he gets a call from me sobbing on the phone.

[Thandeka]

So erm. I had a mate round to watch videos this arvo and DH went out to see a mate for arvo. We were watching bob and rose. Its such a happysad poignant series. Anyhow I get sad, very sad, in fact you could say grief just hit me like a train. You see I had a missed miscarriage two weeks ago at 10 weeks- first pregnancy. I'm one of those people who deal with things by mostly ignoring it then have the odd explosion. Anyhow tried to ring a couple of friends. No-one in. So ring DH- ask him to come home. Response? a) Well not really I'm going to that party (i vaguely was thinking of going too). I hang up on him. A bit later he rings back. Apparently he doesn't want to come home because it will take 40 minutes and i will probably be fine by then!?

WHY OH WHY did I marry an aspie!?

I probably shouldn't be on my own right now and I really need a cuddle. So can the dear mumsnetters just club together and be nice for a little bit until I can find someone in RL to give me a hug/DH comes home?

Yup I was snotty and completely sobbing down phone- he knew I was very upset. And yes OP tries to make it clear whereever possible about needing support!

Clear communication is always important- good tips though. Anyhow like I said - sorry about offending anyone with the aspie comment (though I still feel he is somewhere on the spectrum) happy to let this thread die now as is all solved now and like another poster said it probably isn't the best topic area for it- (but am still relatively new to Mumsnet and still figuring out the best topic areas.)