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AIBU?

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To want to paint the bedroom in our new home before we move in?

24 replies

MrsMopple · 01/05/2009 21:29

me and dh are moving soon and the master bedroom in the house we're going to has got wallpaper that is so far away from my taste that I have said that I need to paint over it before I will sleep there. DH says that it is a waste of time as there is some plastering that may need redoing and so I should wait until after that before wasting my time and my money doing it.
Added complication is that it is currently my in-laws house and dh grew up there and this is where his parents currently sleep. So AIBU in wanting to make this one room feel like MY home from the start?

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FiveGoMadInDorset · 01/05/2009 21:31

Not at all, we painted over the wallpaper in our bedroom when we moved in 4 years ago, this year we will finally get round to replastering it.

IheartNY · 01/05/2009 21:31

yes YABU
Its rude to his parents, its also pointless as he says - a waste of time and money!

Put up with it for a short while and get it done properly all together. Its hardly going to kill you to look at wallpaper not to your taste for a couple of weeks!

namebacon · 01/05/2009 21:31

YABU - if it needs plastering first, it needs plastering first.

Or were you seriously going to wallpaper the room, take the wallpaper off, plaster the room and put more wallpaper back on again

beanieb · 01/05/2009 21:31

A tin of paint costs less that a tenner, you'd only need two and a roller. So YANBU because as a temporary measure which would make you happier it's hardly going to break the bank.

Could you get £20 and go over there and do it yourself?

beanieb · 01/05/2009 21:33

Namebacon - I think she just wants to temporarily paint over it. If it were me I'd just do it.

blametheparents · 01/05/2009 21:33

I wouldn't do it. DH would then consider the room had been deorated and it would never get done properly!
So YANBU, but think of the consequences!

beanieb · 01/05/2009 21:35

And it is Your time, and your money so waste it as you choose.

LadyPinkofPinkerton · 01/05/2009 21:36

YANBU at all. I painted two bedrooms in our house before we moved in.

I think more so the fact that it is PIL house currently, you should do something to make it seem like your home

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MrsMopple · 01/05/2009 21:36

This is the trouble with AIBU, I wanted evryone to say I wasn't BU!

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RumourOfAHurricane · 01/05/2009 21:37

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PinkBubblesGoApe · 01/05/2009 21:37

YANBU. I am moving to my parents house next year and will definitely paint - I want at least the master bedroom looking like its mine and not my parent's room! Too weird otherwise...

IheartNY · 01/05/2009 21:38

But your in laws live there now!
You cant go bursting in there and tell them that you HATE their decor so much you cant wait till you move in to change in, it has to be before.
They'll have to move all their stuff and sleep in a different room for the night after you painting, all the time feeling put out at your distaste of their colour scheme.

Its rude and screams spoilt brat tbh

If you really cant wait till after the plastering, at least wait till your in laws move out and you move in!!!

FiveGoMadInDorset · 01/05/2009 21:39

I am pretty sure she wasn't going to paint it before they moved out

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MrsMopple · 01/05/2009 21:39

Thanks to those that feel I'm not. I'm already quite nervous about the move and if DH had his way nothgin would change as it feels like home to him anyway whether we decorate or not! I just think that the bedroom especially needs to feel like I belong there, otherwise I'll feel like we're staying in their house instead of living in our own home.

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Metatron · 01/05/2009 21:40

Tell DH there will be no sex until it is done as it is too much like having your in-laws watching.

YANBU.

PinkBubblesGoApe · 01/05/2009 21:40

Anyway, all it takes is a polite explanation to PIL: "we just want to make the house feel like our own".

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MrsMopple · 01/05/2009 21:42

IheartNY, I wasn't going to do it while they were still there!!! I've got no more right to change their decor than they would have to come into our current home and do ours! There will be a few weeks between them movign out and us moving in and I wanted to go in and do that one thing before we got our furniture in.

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FiveGoMadInDorset · 01/05/2009 21:42

MrsMopple, I quite agree with you, my brother has just moved into my parents house (they have moved elsewhere) and my mother was under no illusion that they were going to keep everything the same.

IheartNY · 01/05/2009 21:44

ok, fair enough if not doing it before they move out.

I just thought that based on this 'Added complication is that it is currently my in-laws house and dh grew up there and this is where his parents currently sleep'

if she's going to wait till they move out then it shouldnt be a complication should it?

TheScatterGunApproach · 01/05/2009 21:44

wasn't there a thread about someone's mad SIL who wanted to redecorate the day they moved into their new house?

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MrsMopple · 01/05/2009 21:47

So on balance, I'm NBU, but on my own head be it if it means nothing else gets done in that room because dh will take it as finished! Thanks ladies!

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beanieb · 01/05/2009 21:48

"I just think that the bedroom especially needs to feel like I belong there, otherwise I'll feel like we're staying in their house instead of living in our own home"

then paint, it paint it, paint it. He is wrong about it being expensive, unless you want a whole team of professional painters in there?

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MrsMopple · 01/05/2009 21:50

Beanieb, I will, I will, I will! (And I'll do it myself and will buy the paint myself and it won't cost him a penny or a minute)

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Jux · 01/05/2009 21:54

Aside from the fact that I would never in a million years live in my in-laws house, I would certainly paint the bedroom at the very least. I would just know that MIL was watching us in bed otherwise and wouldn't be able to sleep or get dressed/undressed in there.

Tell him you'll be sleeping on the sofa until it's done.

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