For getting pissed off at being completely ignored when speaking?

[SweetMaryJesus]

This was a 'convo' I had earlier with DP:

me - "I'll write those applications off tonight ..."

dp - "you need a bag for that stuff ... hang on" and he goes to find me a bag.

I wait until he comes back in and resay ..

"As I was saying, I'll send thos applications off for tonight ... "

dp - "you don't want this bag! it's all wet ... hang on ... "

FFS I'M TRYING TO FFING SPEAK TO YOU!!

Does anyone else get really angry during this kind of convo? I see it as really ignorent and rude. He doesn't even seem to realise he's doing it.

Am I being anal?

yanbu. I think it is rude not to pay attention to someone. If I need to talk to the dc and they're playing I often have to ask them to put down what they're playing with and look at me so I can be (reasonably) sure they are paying attention. I don't feel I can treat dh like a 6 year old.

But last night I was having a conversation with him about how unsatisfied I felt with my life, how I was having no luck applying for jobs and could we talk through my options and our finances etc. He started off listening and discussing, then suddenly said "oh, that's a nice picture". He'd been downloading photos from his new camera onto the computer while I was unburdening my soul. Doesn't make you feel very worthwhile, does it?

M23M, when you started that conversation, was he already downloading the photos? Or, to put it another way, was he already doing something and you're annoyed because he didn't instantly drop what he was doing because you'd chosen that particular moment to start talking?

no, he was sitting at his chair in the study. I sat on another one. He picked up the camera half way through the conversation. I just thought he was fiddling with it to keep his hands busy while we discussed my crap life, but no, he was transferring pics. Don't want to hijack the thread, but it just proved how crap my life is.

My Mum does it all the time. I can start talking about ME or DS and she will cut in and start wittering on about someone at works MIL's, cousin, brothers, aunty. It seeems obscure people are WAAAY more interesting than me . I rarly talk about anyhting botherinf me but once in a while I would like my Mother to actually show some interest in ME

I do occasionally call her on her rudeness or better still start looking into space/reading and totally blank her whrn she finally finishes wittering. She will then realise what she's done