Even if it means he won't get a pressie from us?
Nephew was born the day I had surgery for an ectopic pregnancy. Not a date I'll forget easily but no one else has ever remembered or mentioned it since.
I know it's not nephew's fault. I actually think he's a nice child and under any other circumstances I'd not think twice about buying him something and then telling DH we are visitng.
Why should I be the one who has to remember other people's children's birthdays when actually I'd rather spend the anniversary doing what I think I want to? Why would no one remember that it is actually a rather difficult day for me and I'd rather not have to do jolly children's party stuff.