to think people should get off my back over ds2's speech?

[TheLadyEvenstar]

he is 19m old and he says...
did it
out
up
mine
mama
dad
Rar (karl)
Ball
Door
car
no
yes
bed
nin nin (dinner)
Borrle (bottle)
da da (barney ok so sounds nothing like it)
shhhh
sit (and a combination of the last one and this which i do not encourage!!!)
shoe
dink
boobies
wee wee
rai room (shower or as we call it the raining room, only to him though)
woo woof (dog)
eowwww (cat)
get
it
daddy did it
and now

I am sure there are others but cannot remember them all. BUT I am getting so sick of people telling me he should be speaking more.

I don't think you've anything to worry about. My DS is 15 months and says

gone
car
ta
mamma
dadda

And that's it!!

ell em all to burger off x

Blimey. YANBU.

I would've been over the moon if ds1 had that many words at 19months.

lol at 'daddy did it'

Ignore, Ignore, Ignore - he's still only little!!

A friends 3 yo DS has been to a specialist as at just under 3 didn't say that much. They weren't worried. He's now (3.2) chatting his head off!! BTW his sister who is 5 still says a great combo of shhh and sit and the speach therapist still isn't worried!

Another friend has just taken her 2yo DS(turned 2 in April) to have him checked out as he says 3 words... she took him as she was fed up of other people commenting... they said that he's fine, good comprehension etc and speach will come.

Tell them to mind their own business!!

ATC, it just gets me down tbh. I have been told I should be worried he is slow, as he doesn't talk much, as he doesn't sing nursery ryhmes, say his name (my nephew had difficulties pronouncing ds2's name when he was 4...)
can't dress himself, and is not potty trained.

DS2 is 19 months and says

Naaah (no)
Da (yes)
Daaaaaa + wave (bye)
ough??? (can I?)
Da-Da
Ma-Ma . . . general chit chat, both can mean anything.

Have him down for speech therapy but other DCs were just as bad/worse and have turned out OK so not really worried.

We communicate fine.

DLAMIS,

Daddy did it, is his favourite along with

me "DS2 who did this"
DS2 "Rar did mama"

But who are these people who are telling you this? Why are you taking any notice of them?

Why on earth should he be potty trained at 19 months?

Ignore them he's doing great. Every child's speech develops differnetly, Dd was barely talkign at 3, so I know how annoying it is.

Can't dress himself or use a potty at 19 months? I went for my DS's 2 year check up today and he can't do either and the HVs smiled and said he was doing fine.

who the bejesus are you talking to who is telling you he should be doing all this stuff?????

my 18 month old says
du (which means duck)
and
du (which means dog)

I had to laugh last night, ok I know i shouldn't have BUT he was in the bath with dp and he dropped a toy over side..suddenly i hear
"oh sh**"
Followed by

"Mama get it"

Thank you

My DS is 5 and a half and has low functioning autism and i have always said that he is functioning at about 20 months old but he can say quite a lot more than this now (thank God!) and so maybe i could let myself think he is about 23 months in speech terms or something... i can't remember what 19/20/21 month old neurotypical children can say (DS1 is 9 so was a looooooong time ago) and you have all made me feel as if DS2 is actually more able than i thought. Thank you again

19 months old and he is saying all that? Tell them all to shove off. dd1 hardly spoke AT ALL until she was almost 3.

Once she did start she never stopped (cue 15 years of endless ear bashing )

Don't worry, he seems to be doing very well. You don't seem to have any concerns (except for being irritated, understandably, by the comments) and you know best. So there is nothing to worry about.

My sister keeps telling me he should be potty trained,
woman where ds1 goes to school keeps telling me how her 17m old grandson can do sooooooooo much for himself.

they just make me feel like i am keeping him a baby by not doing all these things on cue iyswim?

ds1 is almost 11 and ds2 19m sooo maybe i do llike him being a baby?

Gibberish, i am highly irritated by it all. I just want to be left to let him reach milestones at his own pace. I was eager for ds1 to do it all but ds2 is a totally different child.

Evenstar. You sound very normal to me.

Your sister sounds like a loon, or very inexperienced with kids.

The woman at school might be just proud and exaggerating.

Ignore them. I doubt you've got some sort of weirdy psycho issue which is actually stopping your one year old from writing his own encyclopedia.

My DS at two said:

"Daddy"
"Mummy"
"car"

I am a SLT

Just read your next bit... OK, I will admit that LO (girl) was doing most of that at 19 months (she has an older sister though and wants to be as grown up!!) HOWEVER absolutely everyone comments on how advanced she is for her age (and I do run a bit of a bootcamp - LOL). She is not yet potty trained.

However, girls are generally a bit quicker with most things.

My friend with the LO who is 2 was just saying today he's the last one out of her AN group to do everything!! LOL from rolling over to talking and EVERYTHING in between, laughing, she said she didn't actually know why she'd let herself be pressured into getting his (lack of) speach checked out as he was last to do everything else, why wouldn't he be last to do this too! He is a lovely little boy, bright, charming and certainly lets you know what he wants!! He doesn't do any of those other things either...

Other friend with the 3 YO her little boy is lovely too - he doesn't dress himself, isn't toilet trained etc

Also, doesn't say much, doesn't sing nursery rhymes and doesn't say his name are all the same thing.... overnight you will wonder why you even gave it a second thought and will wonder what you can do to get him to STOP talking

Don't let the bastards grind you down!!

(Actually you're probably too young to get that!!)

lmao Mary, thanks for making me laugh!!!

My sister has 2 sons 8 and 5 now. But she thinks i should be doing the same as i did with ds1 who was dry at 15m in the day and 17m at night. She says "well you know you can do it".

DS2 is sooooooo not ready...i take his nappy off show him the potty/ toilet he laughs runs away and piddles where ever he wants.

I can understand how you feel. To be honest, no matter how you worry about whether you are trying, or not, to keep him a baby (and there is always that feeling and tendency with the youngest I think) he will grow up and develop regardless. He certainly doesn't seem to be under developed in any way atall!

And whether they are the youngest or oldest, they all develop at different rates regardless. dd2 was the earliest to ride a bike, dd3 was the earliest to be potty trained and dd4 was the earliest to be able to count.

dd4 is very much treated as the baby in our house, despite now being 8, but she is sharp as a button regardless.

Let the comments fly over your head. You know he is developing well and that is the main thing.

my dd2 is 19months and says
mummy, daddy, tata, apple, dog, cat, tree, sheep, cow, drink, boobie, bed, hi, bye, hello, thank you and loads more BUT she has only just started walking, so was getting hassle for that, tell them to sold off, his fine

Chipping....no i bought my dad a tie with that on but in latin when i was 11 lol god that was a long time ago.
He can work the dvd player grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr he can and does undress himself, loves a shower and loves to wash you as you wash him lol.
He is great with holding a pencil (he sits with ds1 when he has homework)
Oh and he can feed himself after swirling "cutting" food up.

He can also help himself to every bit of unopened cheese and eat it through the packet and grab the corn beef and leg it with it.

My dd didn't say nearly that much at that age.

Lisa Thanks!!!
He was walking a week after his 1st b'day.
he does make me laugh as he can associate things you wouldn't think he could an example the other day he was in my room with me and he picked my bra up shouted boobie and legged it laughing with my bra on his head!!!

OK, that sounds nothing like I intended it to... LOL... what I meant was LO does do those things, but it's a lot more than people expect her to be able to do - the boys don't do those things and people expect more of them... you can't win.

In reality, they will do what they want to do when they are ready and (SN aside) he will be doing all of it by the time he starts school - what does a few months here or there matter?? Sometimes people just say stupid things to fill a gap in a conversation - when really a gap would be far preferable!!!

Oh and wrt 'keeping him a baby'. Maybe you aren't hurrying him along as much as you could... but fgs they are only little for such a small amount of time and having an older child really makes you appreciate that and enjoy it! There's nothing wrong in that at all. I miss doing lots of bits for LO, but she firmly tells me I do it myself!!! sometimes I'm grateful and sometimes I'm

Don't let them get to you, he's doing just fine