I'm mad as hell but bit scared to be too specific as I'm always telling her to use mumsnet (don't think she does)and I'd hate her to think this all sounds familiar.
They've been married more than 5 years and have a young dc. DH and I are friends with her and her DH. I know he has been unfaithful in the past, long long ago he even tried it on with me! And I saw him on a couple of occasions with another woman but I wasn't close enough to my friend to consider telling her although I hated the situation of knowing something like that.
We are now closer friends since we both have dc now. My DH has confided in me it's annoying him and their other mates that this guy is cheating on his wife as he uses them all as alibis frequently and they've warned him it'll end in tears. My DH has tried to talk to him about how he's risking his family and try to encourage him to grow up and accept those exciting days of chasing women are over but to no avail.
It's driving me mad to be aware of this, I wish I didn't know. If I saw him with my own eyes now I would threaten to tell his wife but this is unlikely to happen.
And so I'm frustrated as I would definitely want to know if I was in my friend's position. Being cheated on and our entire circle of friends aware of it. But she loves him and trusts him, we've had a really uncomfortable conversation not long ago when she said how pleased she was that her DH was a great dad and so loyal, would never cheat etc.. And she has a young DC and would be totally devestated. I don't want to let off a grenade in their lives and I doubt anyone would thank me. Aggghh what to do?? I hate this