to not really want anyone staying at our house just before we get married?

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I'm trying to work out if I'm being an antisocial old bag. A friend has offered to come and stay in the few days before to help out with wedding/kids. DH also just phoned to ask if his friend and his wife could stay over on the Thursday night as well so they could have a catch up.

Here's the thing. I have a 2.8 year old DS1 and DS2 who is 8m. DS1 is having nightmares at the moment, DS2 is teething and has me up feeding all night. I'm starting to get a bit nervous about the wedding and I don't really want the added pressure of having to cook, entertain, be all hostessy and generally worry about other people. Even though my friend at least has offered to help I sometimes find it quite draining having guests (not all guests, but some, and I quite like to be able to withdraw occasionally and recharge my batteries without having to justify myself.)

We also don't live in the biggest house in the world and with extra guests (who don't have kids) there are more people up and down the stairs, in and out of the bathroom at night and just general disruption- and it's hard enough to get the kids to sleep without that.

So AIBU? I know DH is disappointed and I feel a bit tight but I feel like there's so much going on I really can't be doing with the extra aggro.

What's the verdict?

Let them stay in your home and you go and stay in a nice hotel .

My grandma assumed she could stay at my mums for my sisters wedding...

er that would have meant my sis waking up to the sight of grandma in my old bed in the room we used to share!

We all chipped in to put the old dear up in the hotel where the reception was

Good God, what on earth are people on! YANBU, it's your wedding, you spend that time doing what you would prefer to do.

It really does stagger me that no matter how lovely/brilliant etc friends and family are, they can often be terribly self-centred or oblivious.

Have some time to yourselves as a family, it's a really important time for you.

the latest guest to invite themselves is an definite no no...He's a very odd house guest, to say the least. Last time he stayed he did odd things in the bathroom and he didn't get up until 2pm, I had to turf him out in the end!