to think my mother really should not try to bake us alive?

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I don't think I am BU. I know it's her house etc and she can have the temperature at whatever she wishes but....

We went to vist my mum for the day who I only see every 6 weeks or so - 2 1/2 hr drive each way. Me, Sis, DH and DD (6mo).

I know she likes it warm but in the full sun in the afternoon the temp peaked at 29.1 deg in the living room and DD was down to her nappy.

Mother refused to open the windows - she wanted to keep the heat in so it was warm later.

AIBU to think that for the comfort of her guests who she rarely sees she could have opended a window? Because to be honest I don't want to go back if I have to endure that again. She seemed to think it was funny.

YANBU, as long as you don't think I'm unreasonable for being cross that my parents try to freeze us to death. 12-14C overnight with a tiny baby... brrr and I was CROSS that they wouldn't turn the heating on (they are not poor, we were only there 2 nights). It was Winter, btw!

next time you go, pretend to faint.

Does she realise how hot it was?

Is she well?

I would love to be able to show off my kids to their grandparents, don't stop going because of this. Nothing wrong with baby having a kick about in a nappy. IME babies love it.

cross post, madam

YANBU - my nan used to be exactly the same. We used to fight to get the chair furthest away from the gas fire.

YANBU- my Ex MIL has her house horribly, sweatily hot too. Every time DS stays there he comes back with a horrible runny nose which stays for about 3 weeks! ( TMI sorry!)

my gran's house is a sweat box too. i tell her this but she says she likes it like that. fair enough. she sits there in her cashmere jumpers while me and dh have to remember to wear shorts and t shirts. dh would actually wear nothing at all, but obviously that wouldn't be reasonable.

Old people do feel the cold a lot more than we do and I know my MIL who is 82 really worries about her heating bills as they now account for one week of her pension ,another week goes on council tax.

my gran has that set up where old people can pay a set amount and use just however much heating they want. they sent a man round to see how she was managing to use so much, like to check if she was running a business in her house or something. but no, he just had to sweat it out the same as the rest of us.

YANBU. It's the same at my mums - she's not elderly though, she's just nesh

It's the opposite in my house, we have no central heating and when my family come to visit, they come complete with jumpers and slippers

yes i have a special big cardi (a maternity one in fact) that is gran's for when she comes to visit.

It's cos I'm Oop Norf ruddy - my family are all spoiled by southern mildness

Grendle - can beat that - was down to 10.9 deg when we stayed the night in Jan. Fortunately we co sleep (very much disapproved of by mother) so could snuggle up.

Rationale that time - did not want to put heating on as too expensive.

It's a Park Home and not insulated at all - either boiling in the sun or freezing as soon as it goes dark.

She is 59, so not exactly geriatric and in perfect health (physically- mentally I wonder....)

She did know the temp because I kept telling her as did Dsis who was similarly wilting. DH too polite to mention it. At home when it gets to 21 he is down to his pants!

(Am not temperature obsessive, honest)

yanbu
but this seems to happen to people who have not stepped outside all day, and haven't felt that the weather's warmed up now.

My parents' house (they are very elderly) is like one of those haybox ovens they supposedly used in the war. I have to remember to wear basically beachwear when I visit (and also not to run short of petrol on the way, as it looks a bit bloomin odd to be wearing my cossie in the snow).

I bought them a lovely bench for their garden recently, so that I they can sit out in the cool and have a nice drink.

YANBU.

We have some photos of a Christmas at my parent's house years ago. We are all in shorts and t-shirts because the heating was up so bloody high, Mum and I nearly expired cooking the Christmas dinner. My Grandad has a vest, shirt, jumper and jacket on - and a wooly hat. Inside!

Lol, my parents share a house with my grandparents and go mad as my parents are really careful about the gas bill and my grandparents have the heating on full blast all day long! My grandad is very old, but they refuse to pay even half the gas bill as they say there are only two of them and three in my parents side (parents and my sister), even though my parents side is empty all day as they are at work/school!

We visited my MIL one summer and it was so hot in the house even she was wilting. "Its always like this" she said. I said "why dont you turn off the heating then", she looked at me as if to say "I didn't think of that". It was on full blast.

my parents are on stay warm and their house is like a greenhouse. i have to keep going outside , usually in my vest as this is the only item of clothing i can wear.my argument is they can put more clothes on i cant take anymore off.