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to wish that i was just even a tiny bit important to someone especially at this time?

27 replies

deanychip · 26/04/2009 16:24

Ok so i am feeling very very sorry for myself.
I had a medically managed miscarriage which was the most painful thing i have ever experienced. Had morphine, gas and air, tramadol, coprox everything they could throw down my neck...and it still hurt.
I am DEFO not normally a wuss, but this was BAAD, really bad.

Dh has gone to football overnight. (he has just spent 2 whole weeks fitting our new kitchen (8am-11pm every day of his holiday so i couldnt bring myself to ask him not to go,, although he did offer to stay home)

came home from hospital yesterday morning, babysat for a pal last night as i promised her i would in Feb, painkillers ran out, she didnt get home till gone 1am as she got stuck in traffic, was bleeding tons, and doubled in pain.Had to be up this morning to take my ds to swimming.

MIL rang "you ok?" told her i am sore, no offer to take ds for a couple of hours so i can lie down, and take my painkillers (which cant take when i have ds cos they knock me out, make me dizzy but they stop the pain)

Friend offered to take ds with her and her 2 kids for a run in the fields at 9.30 this morning, didnt turn up for him till 4pm, he has been waiting all day at the front of the house for her.....poor little bugger.

No one else has been near, no one.

MIL, fair enough, they never help out anyway, but things like this just make me feel even more let down by the pil.

sob sob SOB

tell me to shut the fuck up, i am actually getting on my own nerves with all of this crap.

OP posts:
blossomsmine · 26/04/2009 23:30

YANBU, sometimes family and friends do seem to let us down don't they...

Sorry you have been having such an awful time.

Sending you a hug.

Earlybird · 27/04/2009 02:59

How awful for you. I'm so sorry.

Have you asked anyone for help? I know they should be thoughtful/sensitive enough to realise (without you asking) that you need some special care at this time.

But tbh, you seem to be carrying on as normal (babysitting for a pal, taking ds to swimming etc), so it is possible they think things are sort of OK.

Why didn't you say you couldn't babysit, or that you couldn't take ds swimming? It is perfectly understandable why not, but when you simply carry one as usual, maybe they think you're coping much better than you actually are?

Take care of yourself. Ask for help. Don't try to be super-human.

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