To not want to split the bill with a fecking 'order the most expensive thing on the menu man'

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This is on behalf of my dh

He went out last night for a meal with 25 work collegues. They all ordered what they wanted and had a nice meal.

At the end the XO (boss man effectively) said they should split the £1000+ bill.

He had ordered the most expensive meal and was drinking £30 bottles of wine. The majority of the others had ordered the chaepest set menu and were drinking house wine.

There was, of course, a sticky end to the evening as they sat thrashing the bill out. They all paid £55.25 each when most had only spent £30-40.

Is he being unresonable to be a bit pissed off?

Of course i think he is being entirely unreasonable beacuse it should have been me he was going out to dinner with

Annoying indeed.

Next time could DH take charge of divvying up the bill?

Would have thought the boss would have realised he'd been unreasonable. I've never been out for dinner though in a group where someone has ordered lovely expensive wine for themselves and the rest had house - sounds most odd.

Clearly the XO thought he was perfectly justified but then again he is probably loaded and does not appreciate that the £20-30 quibble is an awful lot of money to some people.

You know the 'money, money, money, must be funny in a rich mans world'

Hullo dogmamma, am still here just useless at keeping up

It's a tricky one this, especially as it was a group of colleagues rather than a group of friends.

I always suggest splitting the bill equally, regardless of what I have been eating and drinking (even when I was pregnant) because I cannot bear fussing about with money and playing the 'I owe this, and you owe X amount' game. But I have friends who are very budget aware, and will always have worked our their exact share of the bill and proffer it before the bill hits the table. (This is why I never have, and never will have any money.)'Tis awkward.

I think it is poor form for the boss to suggest splitting the bill though. Back when I worked in an office (of course, this was back in the glory days when there was money in the country) my boss would always put a card behind the bar to kick a night off, and any bill splitting decisions would be by mutual agreement, rather than being effectively ordered to split it equally.

I think he isn't being entirely unreasonable to be a bit annoyed, but, he had a good night out and a nice meal, so it isn't the end of the world.

(You, on the other hand, should be livid, and should demand to be taken out next Friday night.)

normally i'm of the opinion that if you go out as a group you should just split the bill and not complain as everyone has had a good night out and at the end of the day that's what you're paying for however this sounds like an odd situation, it seems from what you say that lots of people couldn't really afford the night out and were being careful to order the cheapest on offer and the XO was taking advantage of the fact that the others would be picking up his tab, by the sounds of it one bottle of his wine equals the entire cost of the night out for the majority at the table and that's definitely not on.

so no LG&T's dh, YANBU

He is going to print this off i think, maybe pass it round the ship like a naughty school note. They will all snigger as the XO walks past

He should take me out for a meal. Hopefully he will when he is home in 3 weeks

All dc's well thank you Dogmamma hope you are all ok too.

i went out for a meal with friends last night. Myself and one other had a starter so we put in more at the end to compensate.

I hate it when people say let's split equally. I once had this when I went out with friends and I was slightly unser the waeather. I ate just a salad (£8) but was expected to pay £15 which was splitting the bill equally. I'm too much of a wimp to say no so just paid the £15

It can cause a lot of probs can't it? I'm always one of the table drinking too much wine so I always make a point of suggesting that the non drinkers pay less. I remember how unfair it seemed when I was pregnant and not drinking and having to pay as much as everyone else!

oh i hate this...i remember going out for a friends birthday...i was skint but didnt want to let her down...about 8 of us went and it was agreed that we would all club together and pay for the birhtday girl....so i was happy with that, anyway, being skint, i skipped the starter, had a main course, i had driven to the restaurant ( a good xcuse to sip water all night) and had a coffe instead of desert.....so all in all i had accounted for about £15 - £20....well all my mates were boozed up, bottles of wine galore and the bill came to well over £200, they agreed to split the bill and it was £30+ each!!!!! i explained that i hadnt had a starter and no wine but by this time i was a called a miser ....needless to say i soon went, £30 lighter and never went out with them again.....learnt a valuable lesson that night - those girls were not my mates

Not nice girls stopin, you poor thing.

You could gaurantee the one night you go out and booze up will be the one night you foot the bill for your own.

That's just greedy and horrible. Next time your dh is at a shared meal tell him to eat as much of the expensive stuff as he can and get his money's worth. Anyway why didn't the company pay??

I've said my piece about how unfair this is on the previous bill splitting thread, but just to add that my DH pays for his staff when they go out for a meal like this (no freebies on his organisation, sadly), rather than expecting the staff to subsidise his expensive tastes, and that is how the boss should be acting.

Thats mean and selfish, stupid boss man. I honestly would of said something though and explained I could only afford to pay for what I had had.