To not want to spend £340 for 2 nights in a hotel for SILs wedding ?

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SIl is getting married in June next year. Step MIL (her mother) has been calling me saying that the whole wedding is taking place in a hotel. She then said that if we book in for 2 nights hten A) it would mean we wouldn't have to travel
B) They get a free wedding breakfast for the bridal party and parents(so not us then) if x amount of guests book 2 nights
C) She can book me a hair appointment with the hotel hairdresser who is doing a "special" deal for female wedding guest of £45 for a wedding hair do

Now,I've worked this out. We currently live 8 hours drive fromthem.
So to get there would involve a lot of petrol. I've looked on the hotel website, and it wouldn't actually let me book rooms for the wedding date, said there was none availiable, but an approxiamte cost for the 4 of us for 2 nights B&B would cost £340.(allowing the £20 per room discount for having the wedding there).
Then we have DH's kilt hire. Outfits for the Dses, and myself plus a present.and she wants mt to go to the hairdresser as well!
I reckon it would cost at least £500.

So MIL (not the brides mum, DH's mum) has said we could stay at their's and they would drop us off and pick us up - 35 miles away.
Or we could book into a cheaper B&B/Hotel and get a taxi. Step MIL, when I informed her of this, said "oh but it's SILs wedding and she wants it perfect and xand Y (SMILs sister and her DH) are staying there, and A,B and the DCs (SMILs neice, and her Dh and children, her daughters are bridesmaids) are staying there.

I feel very pressured, pus DH - who is away aATM was moaning at me for saying to SMIL and said I should have jsut kept quiet just now. But she was hassling me for an answer.

How preposterous to expect guests all to stay in the same hotel. I wouldn't say anything more now and just stay at your MILs when the time comes.

It's extremely rude to expect your guests to spend £500 on your wedding.

YANBU , tell her you'd love to stay in the hotel , if she pays for it!you simply cant afford to stay in hotel, go for the b&b. its a bit selfish of the bridal party to want a flash do in an expensive place and for everyone to stay there to. weddings are to commercialised now, its all about showing off and not about celebrating the marriage anymore.i think wedding receptions that are held in pubs /comunity halls are usually more fun, no one wants to spend £100+ on drinks all night anymore.i worked in a hotel and two drinks (ie, bottle beer and vodka+red bull) would cost aprox £10....wasnt even a nice hotel , only 3 star.RIP OFF!

I bet on the day she wouldn't notice your hair or where you stayed anyway. Take the cheaper option or you'll just end up resentful (can't blame you!)
Blasted wedding season costs a fortune. Whatever happened to living in sin?

Stay with your MIL for free and get her to drop you off. The amount of money involved is ridiculous. I would stay with MIL, do my own hair (well I would just brush it actually, nothing more!). Wear clothes you already have, ditto for kids. If DH is being forced to hire clothes, then I suppose I would stretch to that.

I am absolutely SHUDDERING at the thought of having a MIL and a step MIL .

DH isn't being forced to wear a kilt, he's not an usher or anything (again it's the brides cousins children that have this job) but he did say he would like to wear one.

As other have said stay elsewhere.

It's going to cost more then £500 for the wedding.

Once you take into account the cost of petrol, hire of kilt and new clothes for you and children esp if you can't wear your normal clothes around the hotel. And then a wedding present on top.

Your are looking nearer a £1000.