to think that some parents really need to stop taking their children's football so seriouslyy?

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My ds plays football on a thursday evening. It's all a bit of fun really, the kids learn the necessary skills, they're divided into teams to play matches to practice goal scoring/defending/whatever else it is that footballers do. They are all aged between five/seven years.

I've never considered it anything more than just fun for the kids. there's plenty of time for them to get serious about it after all once they get older.

However some of the parents have started to complain. Have said that the session should be divided so the "good" players play together and the "bad" players don't hold them back.

Ibu to think they really need to chill?

These are 5/6 yo's fgs.

OH GOD YES I WISH THEY WOULD!

Too much bloody focus on a thuggish game imo...now if more focus was on rugby...

YANBU.

Friends of ours little lad (4 yrs..just..) plays/has football practice at the local football ground.

They obsessed with him being the next up&coming footballer...
They woukd deny it of course BUT I try and avoid conversations with them about it.

He came to ours last week and was playing with dd's football like he was in the local youth team.. Kicking it over the fence etc.

ffs,I feel like sayin: let him be a kid and play..not be pressurised into being a player iykwim...

Thing is, is tends to be kids who are pushed into things that feel resentment.

depends on the type of club or school you're bringing him to.
the school i coach at is very much of the "just a bit of fun" camp with regards to football so that is how it is treated and that's how i gear my sessions.
where as the team i coach for my club is at the other end of the spectrum and is highly competitive so some kids are not picked and players are streamed with regards ability.

Mayor we have done that with our U10's...we have 2 teams with no indication of priority, quite simple to make sure that the good players were getting a challenging game and the less skilled players were getting on the pitch...it all becomes competitive sadly now at U9's.....everything up to that is not allowed to be competitive. I think you shouldnt take the competition out of it, it is good to learn to win/ lose graciously...just a shame the parents cant do that too

I have had to speak to this flippin parent again today!!!!!

although i must agree with the op as the thread was not about competitive football or streaming due to ability, but pushy parents. who are an absolute nightmare.
there's a reason why parents are not allowed to shout anything good or bad at any of the top clubs youth matches and that's because a)half the time they don't know what they are talking about and b) the other half they are ruining some kids confidence and turning him or her off playing the game.
i have a zero tolerance policy with regards the parents of players i coach. they are only allowed shout encouragement or positives (and even then not constantly as in its own way hearing one parent constantly talk puts more pressure on some kids) any criticisms will be dealt with by me the coach and that's constructive by telling them what they are doing wrong,why it's wrong and what they should try and do so they'll improve as players. it's not just me yelling incoherent nonsense and having a go at a child who's about 10.
my dad watched every match i played from about 9 till i was 18 and i don't think i ever heard him shout from the sidelines once about what i should be doing. he was there to support me not coach me. if i'd played badly he'd definitely have a word with me in the car on the way home about what i could do, but it wasn't a berating "you're useless/what were you playing at" type thing, it was an hinest assesment from someone who knew the game. and because of his attitude i'm still playing and coaching and absolutely love the game.

is that question aimed at me or the op?
fwiw i do agree with academic streaming in secondary schools anyway, not sure about primary schools.
the way my school worked it was a good system i thought. in 1st year no subjects were streamed.
then 2nd year to junior cert irish,maths and foreign languages were streamed and imo they are necessary to e streamed because you can't really just move on in them if someone doesn't understand something in the same way you could with say geography because they are very much building block (i mean you're going to have trouble with advanced algebra if the foundations haven't been put in place)
then for leaving cert year english and sciences were also streamed based on ability. and once again i see no problem with that.
why do you ask?

YANBU, this is one of my pet hates. Fortunately, my DS plays in a non-competitive team, with like-minded boys and parents, ie, they just want to have a game of football without all the nasty competitive crap that goes with it. Mind you, some of the other teams and their parents/coaches display truly disgraceful behaviour. As someone else said, it's gross.

My BIL sounds like yours SalemWitch. He actually once had a word with my dad - who was randomly chosen to pick a 'man of the match' - because he didn't pick his DS. I pointed out that perhaps my dad thought it wouldn't be the brightest idea to pick his own grandson .