For not buying partner birthday present?

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I am so skint at the moment. Trying to save for a holiday, single parent of two kids, not working currently ...

But my partner keeps arranging days out every week like saying he'll take me for lunch ... but then expects me to buy the drinks etc. I just can't afford to do it.

It's his birthday tomorow and I just don't have the money to buy him anything. He has paid for us to go and see a show and is taking me out for a meal tonight but I know he'll expect me to buy the drinks.

AIBU for not buying him a pressie? I will get him a card obviously ...

Do I mention the fact that I have not bought him a present and apologise, explaining why or just not mention it at all? we've only been going out two months.

Just explain. And while you are at it, explain about the drinks thing too. If he doesn't understand, he'll carry on doing it.

Tell him...he obviously cares about you and you care for him...I'm sure he will understand

Agree with the others - you have to speak up. He probably doesn't 'get' just how hard up you are.

Could you not cook him something as your present?

I agree with the others, explain that you simply don't have the money. How about making him a birthday cake though?

how about making him a cd for his car, that's what Dc have done for their dad when they have no money
put on all his favourite songs
only works if you have blank cds at home, if you have no money to buy any

If you don't bake buy a nice cupcake..(saw some nice ones in M&S)..and add a candle

Why does he expect you to buy the drinks, that must cost a fortune.

Get better at saying no, if he arranges a night out say thank you but you would rather stay in as things are very tight.
If he cares he will understand, if he gets narked then he is not for you.

bj vouchers.

I met DP just before his birthday - too soon for a proper pressie. I bought a cheap travel scrabble set and spelt out a sweet (rude ) message using the letters. I do realise, however, that not everyone is a scrabble-playing freak geek like me. Can you buy a cake and ice a little message on it?

If not, just serve sausage sandwich naked with sparklers in your hair.

I know words aren't everything, but if he's a partner, doesn't he know your situation?

ha ha peachy - very funny.....and let him eat it off your tits - best birthday present ever for a man.

Why don't you engineer a row and break up with him the night before his birthday. Then make up with him the following week

nametaken, then that way he will have to buy her a present, as a peace offering
pure genius

you see!!! I'm not just a pretty face you know.

I think there's a lot to be said for wrapping yourself up with a big red bow.

Shave your minge so it reads "happy birthday"

lurker, that makes me think of Frank Butcher on Eastenders

not for the faint hearted

LOL I've just seen that Eastenders sketch - am gonna suggest my dh do something like that for me.