To ingnore DD while she has yet another tantrum that I can't distract her out of?

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I have turned my hearing aids off and she is still in the room with me.

DD is 17mo and and seems to be having tantrum after tantrum just lately when she doesn't get what she wants, when she wants it etc.

I have tried everything I know how to distract her, it is not working.

So AIBU?

No, that's the best strategy I think, so long as you can see & hear her well enough to make sure she doesn't hurt herself and stays in a safe place. Tantrums are horrible for a kid to go through (you, too!) so anything to reduce their importance is good.

Perhaps she's coming down with something and so everything is that bit more difficult for her? I know when I've got a cold I sometimes feel like a few abdabs!

Souns like a good idea to me! I've heard that cuddling them helps to stop a tantrum as they stress little childrem out and frighten them. I tried it with ds and I must say that I had a better success rate than DH's shouting very loudly method. I always think of it in terms of what I would want if I was very grump, frustrated and upset. I'd want to be comforted and calmed, or ignored to get on with it!

Actually she has had a bit of a snotty nose for a couple of days so maybe she is coming down with something.

DH and I have knocked certain foods out of her diet for the time being as she was not eating properly. Our own fault for giving her the clats TBH but it has had a detrimental effect on her behavior. She has started eating properly again though so I know we are doing the right thing.

That is what most of the tantrums have been over basically. She is too much like me like to have her own way all the time.

She has worn herself out now and has fallen asleep in my arms.

Marthasmama, I know when I am in a 'mood' I just like to be left alone to get on with it.

I am gonna go and pop her into bed now as she is fast asleep. Not surprised seen as we have had 3 tantrums this morning.

Oh bless her! Perhaps that's just what she needed then; a bit of non-judgemental, safe space to have a good yell and then a rest.

DD used to get furious with herself for not being able to go to sleep at that age and then suddenly zonk.

DS did that too. We have lots of pictures of him asleep on the floor, one shoe off, coat still on, after he's thrown a big wobbler and fallen asleep.

lol, bless em.

I suppose we are just gonna have to get used to it for now.

I think I find it so hard at the minute as I am 28 weeks pg and my hormones are all over the place and all I want is for DH to wait on me hand and foot while I lounge on the sofa lol.

Think I will take her out to the park and feed the ducks when she wakes up, and will probably stay out until DH gets home.

I always found dd's tantrums very funny. Admittedly, she didn't have many, but when she did... oh boy! It was hilarious

I suppose I find it funny over what they tantrum over. But something that seems like nothing to us can be a big deal to them.

I remember DD's first ever tantrum, it lasted an hour (I was knackered after, never mind her lol) It was over the fact that I was cooking and wouldn't let her into the kitchen. I had closed the gate that we have across the kitchen door, so I could still have my eyes/ears on her but cook tea. DD was not a happy chappy.

Thankfully the tantrums that she has been having the last 3 days seem to be smaller. I try to distract/coax her out of it, but more often than not she doesn't want to know, so I leave her to it. Sounds horrible that I ignore her (my mum thinks I am anyway) but there is nothing else for me to do. DD stays in the room with me and i always have my eye on her, even when I have turned my hearing aids off.