to be upset that my midwife brought up my PND from 2 years ago while I was at work and with patient of my own.

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I work for the NHS and was making a community visit to a patient at home.
Coincidentally my old midwife was also there visiting another family member.

We acknowledged each other and I made polite comments re: times flies, DS2 is now 2 etc.

In front of my patient and hers, she says, "and how are you feeling, last time i saw you you were in floods of tears".

I was a bit taken aback and said, "er yes, i probably was, i'm fine thanks".

Now, when i left I was feeling really upset to have a difficult time for me brought up in the workplace and in front of patients.

And i'm not sure what to do about it.

WWYD?
AIBU to be upset by this?

you don't think that would be an overreaction?

I would complain direclty to her (or ask your manager to do it) and let her reaction help you decide whether to take it further. If she realises what a huge mistake she makes then probably no further - I bet she'll cringe every time she's potentially in a similar situation and that will remind her not to do it!
Agree with DandyLioness's list, and also, if I was her patient listening to this I would be a bit about telling her anything confidential myself!

How would she have felt if you had replied something like "How is your pile problem now ? You were having a terrible time with them."

This woman has overstepped the mark and ought to be reminded of confidentiality and professionalism by her manager.

I am absolutely fuming on your behalf about this.

I'm fairly non confrontational as well, but I really don't think you should let her get away with this. On what planet did she think this was an acceptable thing to say to you in front of other people? Let alone when you're in a professional role.

If she goes around doing things like this she really needs someone to talk to her about confidentiality and appropriate behaviour. Otherwise she could cause some serious damage. So, no, it isn't an over reaction.

thanks for all your messages.
I met with my supervisor this morning and once we'd dealt with all the 'real work issues', I asked her for her opinion and cried explained how upset i was.

she was very supportive as i knew she would be and asked me to put in writing what i'd told her. she plans to call the midwife directly next week and see what happens from there. I will be on annual leave so will find out how the conversation goes when i get back.

i can't believe i'm still having problems with my midwife and it's been 2 years since i was pregnant. jeez, can't these people go away and let you move on with you life?

i'll keep you posted.

Thats great your boss is being so supportive and taking it up on your behalf. You don't really need the confrontation. Hopefully you'll get an apology. Good for you for not just letting it slide.

Yeah it's unprofessional but it's not the end of the world is it?

YANBU
It may not be 'the end of the world' but patient confidentiality is the be all and end all as far as the NMC code of Professional Conduct is concerned!

Highly unprofessional of her.

I would suggest first having a chat to her and asking her politely to remember that you are a working professional as well in these situations and would prefer not to have your personal life brought into your work.

Glad your supervisor was supportive. Hope you enjoy your holiday and come back refreshed and ready to face whatever dimwits come your way