for being sick of the fact our lives are public property to DHs family ??

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Im pissed off with it.

Anything happens with either of his sisters we are NEVER told by MIL and really I wouldn't want to be, its nothing to do with us.

But why is it anytime ANYTHING happens in our house the whole fucking world knows about it.

DH has depression, me and SIL had our first ever tiff lastnight/ today, shes spouting VERY personal details of things DH has said or done due to his illness... MIL must relay everything to SIL.

DH doesn't tell his mum much either, this is why.

MIL never, ever divulges ANYRTHING going on in her daughters lives to my husband.

SIL had been seperated from her husband for 4 months before we were told .... she was 6 months into a relationship and living with her new fella before we found out she was seeing someone new!!

Yet DH and I had an argument last year, I asked him to leave (he was gone 1 night!!) and SIL, the 2nd one, who lives ABROAD phoned DHs dad to tell him what had gone on between us!!

Im fucking sick of it, I want the nosy bitches to keep themselves out of our buisness!

You need to tell them nothing

That works just fine

how are they finding out?

YANBU

Sounds like you have to stop telling them anything you want kept private.

DH has issues he is dealing with but had a lapse and did something, MIL saw the evidence of it and there was no other explination but to tell her the truth.

Then she tells everyone else ... out of 'concern' of course

For this precise reason, I tell the ILs nothing! Think dh has cottoned onto this too. It is sad, when we can't tell them things that we would like to share with just them (like the MC we are currently suffering), but it is not worth having the whole extended family talking about our business behind our backs.

To be fair, my family are not much different!

Shit isn't it?

YEs it is shit

I have started leaving bad things around the house e.g. shopping list with "lube, gimp mask, condoms" and hand cuffs by the bed and a copy of "S&M Masterclass" on my bedside table

It's my way of fighting back

Gah how annoying for you. But yes, morningpaper is right. Just don't tell them anything any more - would be great if DH could do the same. Will wind them up more than any tiffs!

I also HATE people who tell everyone else what someone has been up to under the flimsy veil of "concern", without actually offering any support to the "concernee." grumble grumble.

YES gentle,

SIL just keeps saying 'i'm worried about him'
er ... well try bloody ringing him once in a while or visiting more than once every 4 months.

Nah, SIL just likes the drama without the involvement I reckon.

Smile and wave, smile and wave!

Just don't tell them. If my husband's mother asked about his health I wouldn't tell her. He's entitled to confidentiality. He can tell her himself if he wishes. I wouldn't expect my husband to discuss my helath with my relatives, that's a very patronising thing to do.
If he chooses to tell them fair enough. Just leave communication with them up to your husband or keep it trite "we're all fine thank you".
If I threw my husband out though he would regard that as a major event and would tell his relatives who would probably phone each other. For most couples splitting up is a big event. They weren't to know it was just for 1 night.
I really don't think you should be discussing your husband's health with his sister, I'd tell her to talk to him.

where would one buy a copy of "S&M Masterclass"?

I'm with mp - I'd tell them the most outrageous porkie and laugh my arse off as they fell over themselves to be outraged
Ot tell one of them one thing and the other something completely opposite and then deny both