For cringing at blokes social skills in public?

[SpottyTiger]

A man I have been seeing for a few months took me out to lunch today. We were discussing our children when he mentioned his daughter and said "She will be starting her periods soon" and I was like " yeah" and he started going on...

"Well I've got all prepared, I have bought her pads and wipes ... and we've had the talk ... a lot of blokes wouldn't bother you know ... "

And I was thinking "Most blokes wouldn't discuss it over lunch either "

We got off that subject and started to discuss what movies make us laugh. I suggested a few silly ones that make me laugh and he said "oh, one of my faves was a scene in me, myself and irene where ... " he then described a rather sexual scene, pretty much word for word, quite loudly, including descriptions of a dildo etc and there was a family with a young child eating their dinner in the room too. I was just cringing.

AIB a prude?

I don't think it's fit talk for lunch, especially if children are within earshot.

But I am very prudish. Someone else will come along and say it's OK.

Could the other family hear him? I'm surprised the father didn't say anything.

No you are not being a prude. He sounds like a prat.

Had he been drinking?

uber creepy

yick!

I am afraid I would be put right off someone who did this.

YANBU.

I think with the period thing although the timing was totally inappropriate he was probably trying to show he was "sorted" and didnt think "that's woman stuff" you know, new man thing etc.

But the movie scene thing is not good I would never talk about something like that in a restaurant with children around at that volume. It would embarrass me.

Personally, I find the "a lot of blokes wouldn't bother, you know" comment more disturbing than the subject matter. It's a bit "Look at me, what a great dad I am"

Optomists, he says stuff like that all the time. He's constantly trying to show how great he is with her.

I feel sorry for her actually. One time we were out and she'd been playing, she came back all puffed out for a drink and he said very loudly "did you put deodrant on this morning??" and burst out laughing. He then kept on at her "Oh 'Lucy' .... you didn't put enough spray on this morning! good heavens ... shower for you when you get home ... " and the poor kid is sat in the back of the car with two pre-teen boys.

He's done the resteraunt thing before too. We were discussing embarrassing things that have happened to us, mine were all innocent and silly ... and then he starts telling a story where he was in a shop one time and his DD came running up with a "huge" dildo asking "whats this?" etc etc but he's putting tons of detail in and shouting ... next to us was a table full of pensioners having lunch. He just doesn't seem to think about other people at all.

Oh god I would cringe to death!

Hmmm, am thinking this relationship has pretty much run its course. If it's like this now... Just hope you're not too upset about it.

Err - why are you with him?

Is this the same bloke who parades you in the bread aisle in Asda

You do pick em don't you

that is horrible about his daughter

Can I just ask though where he was shopping with her that they had "huge dildos"??? I dont see them at Tesco...

And also I have to say, meeting his daughters basic bodily needs isnt something to boast about - it is his duty and he needs to get on with it. I dont go around telling everyone how great I am for potty training DS do I?? Because that is what you do with toddlers. So too with young girls you sort their periods. In a way that makes them feel ok about the whole thing hopefully...

avoid avoid avoid

he'll only get more irritating as time goes by & can you just imagine him describing your sex life to all & sundry?

He seems to have a bit of an obsession with dildos... wierdo.

Agree with Heated wholeheartedly. Will only go downhill from here.

I couldnt be with a man I couldnt respect.

Was he in Anne Summers buying her her first push up bra and thong when she came running up with the dildo???

Eugh, he sounds seriously creepy. God love his poor dd, what a tosser.

To be honest I'd be a bit worried about his boundary issues with his dd.

Just an aside but what are these wipes he has bought her. Surely pads do the trick and you wipe with toilet paper. Is he a hygiene freak too?

I can't remember what he said the shop was now but I was also shocked that he'd taken her somewhere that sold them.

And he's mentioned the periods thing to me 3 times now. Like he wants applauding for it.

And I also didn't understand what the wipes were that he's bought. I didn't ask because I didn't want to draw out the conversation.

But the boasting is really driving me mad.

"I pay £30 to have her hair straightened every 3 months ... " hmmm she's not even 12 yet, god knows what damage that is doing ... chemically straightened and using straightening irons every day.

Same with clothes, he purposely shops for her clothes whilst I'm with him, I think to show off that he buys her stuff And then of course we had the whole "Playboy" conversation, very loudly in the middle of a clothes shop once ...

"Lucy wants me to buy her PLAYBOY!!! BUT I've told her no ... YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT PLAYBOY IS I told her .... but of course WE KNOW WHAT PLAYBOY IS .... and it's not suitable ..... "

All in front of a group of teens who were sniggering like mad.

Ok, so you don't buy her playboy. Nothing to show off about, I don't buy my son FHM but I don't go on about it! it's called parenting.