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AIBU?

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to have sent ds to his (HEALTHY) school this morning with assorted crappola in his lunch box?

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Megglevache · 22/04/2009 16:30

I noticed today that his lunch box is empty and he informed me he had eaten it all.

I have always read the letters, tried to put very healthy stuff in ds's lunch box but over the past few weeks he's gone off stuff and when I've asked him why it turns out that one of the lunch time assistants has quizzed my ds on the contents of his lunch box and he's been too embarassed to eat it thereafter. She's said stuff like:

"What on earth have you got there?" Black olives and houmous I think that time
"EEEww that doesn't look very plesant to eat does it?" (fruit bar thingie)
"What are they? I wouldn't eat those, ha ha" (chickpeas)

He told me this a few days ago and it was verified by another parent when I asked her (who works there too)

I know it's a bit childish but in a fit of pique I packed for him today:

Cheese on white bread sandwich
Twix
packet of quavers
small chocolate cake
a jelly

With a small notes telling them what I thought about the comments made.

Ok everything had gone and ds thinks all his christmases had come at once.

Was it really bad?

[wince]

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yappybluedog · 22/04/2009 16:33

lol, maybe not the note

Megglevache · 22/04/2009 16:34

I knnnnnnow.

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cornsilk · 22/04/2009 16:35

Who was the note addressed to?
(I like your style BTW)

Megglevache · 22/04/2009 16:37

To whom it may concern...

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yappybluedog · 22/04/2009 16:39

what exactly did it say?

JemL · 22/04/2009 16:40

My MIL works as lunch time assistant. This sound like it could have been her!

YANBU. Lots of people would have gone much further and put in an official complaint demanding immediate sacking!

Megglevache · 22/04/2009 16:52

Along the lines of:
To whom it may concern.

The contents of my ds's lunch box are slightly different today.

Given that he is too embarrassed to eat the healthy options I have happily given him in the past (as a certain member of staff -Mrs XXXXX has felt the need to comment)these new items will continue to make an appearance regularly.

I trust that this is acceptable?

signed
Meggle

Slightly longer than that and probably no brackets and spelling errors a plenty I'm sure. I forgot to mention also that most of his friends regularly take in cakes/choc and crisps So it feels like it was only me bothering to make any effort anyway.

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KingRolo · 22/04/2009 16:57

Cheese on white bread sandwich
Twix
packet of quavers
small chocolate cake
a jelly

Add a mint Viscount and it's 1986 all over again!

MuffinBaker · 22/04/2009 16:58

YABU to put it in the lunch box. You should have given it in to the office.

yappybluedog · 22/04/2009 16:58

you're a braver woman than I am

Megglevache · 22/04/2009 17:00

Dh told me to put a POTNoodle in.

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KingRolo · 22/04/2009 17:04

Quavers are quite restrained. You should have put some of those giganic puffed potato 'snacks' in. Pickled onion flavour natch.

And where was the fruitshoot??

I think you have done the right thing btw. Very brave of you!

KingRolo · 22/04/2009 17:05

gigantic

Megglevache · 22/04/2009 17:05

Oh the stuff in the lunch box are all Dh's staples that we always have in the house. I see now the 1986 link (PMSL) I forgot to add a Tunnocks wafer bar (we buy those in bulk!)

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MorrisZapp · 22/04/2009 17:10

I don't get it. You are giving your kid crap food in order to stick it to a (presumably low paid and untrained) member of staff?

Why not just address this with the people involved, and not through your son's lunchbox?

Gorionine · 22/04/2009 17:15

I would have been straight in the head teacher's office but YANBU, you method might work even better!

Megglevache · 22/04/2009 17:18

Yes precisely Morris

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Gorionine · 22/04/2009 17:21

You might be right MorrisZapp, but untrained does not mean you have to be totally stupid. Those comments sounds like they could have come from a classmate but not from a dinner lady, trained or not!

Megglevache · 22/04/2009 17:38

Head was not available for days. Hence the knee jerk.
I know it was rash, sorry I'm just making some lovely healthy baked fish for my children

I am actually.

And I don't care how low her pay is she is still a daft bint for making such ridiculous comments that does not excuse her.

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MorrisZapp · 22/04/2009 17:48

I get the daft bint bit. I don't get the bit where in order to have a go at her, you give your kid crap food.

A couple of choccy bics aren't going to kill the lad but it just seems a really odd way to make a point about her stupidity.

(My teacher had never heard of fresh apple juice when I was at school, and I think they actually suspected my mum of witchcraft - I was sooo jealous of the Viscount biscuit brigade but that's another thread )

Megglevache · 22/04/2009 17:53

Yeh, point taken. I have to admit I did take a bit of offence to your post but on reflection I was rash this morning. It was double bubble really. I find out that ds feels ridiculed/it feels like I have made a huge effort for nothing and the school have been pretty hypocritical, you know?

Rod for my own back (ds wants Quavers every day now )

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TsarChasm · 22/04/2009 19:04

I do like the To Whom It May Concern...note though.

I would have stuck with the olives etc but just put 'keep your beak out of ds's lunch box in future' in the note.

Dd has had a bit of this but from other children. Eeeew whats that?! (an olive. Oooo exotic) Eeeww maggots! (prawns fgs) How rude! Just get on with your dunker thing and I'll eat mine..

Megglevache · 22/04/2009 19:06

Tsar- that's the point I guess. Ds checks with dread every morning to see what I've put in. Olives are a big no-no now. Loving the maggots though.

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Portofino · 22/04/2009 19:15

Pom Pom waving at Megglevache! I only hope it doesn't backfire on you!

Megglevache · 22/04/2009 20:03

Oh, how do you mean Porto?

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