Another swimming pool judgey thread... was I, all the parents and the lifeguards right to pull on our judgy pants?

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Last Friday dcs and I went to our usual mum and pre-schoolers swim session at some nice little baths in a small village.

I've been taking my two since ds2 was 12m old to that particular pool cos its sooo hard work - little cubicles round the edge of the pool, trying to get me, two wriggly dcs dry and dressed after in such a confined space.

The toddler session takes place right after a public session, usually full of working people having a lunchtime swim. Last Fri there were the usual 'workers' plus cos of the school hols - a mum with 3 kids the youngest of whom looked about 8 and the other two say 10 and 12.

As we got into the water I noticed the lifeguards gawping open mouthed towards the doors. I looked. I gawped. So did everyone else.

I judged

The mother and 3 kids were leaving the swimming pool dressed in swim suits, towells wrapped round them like they'd just got out of the bath at home, and one child had bare feet.

They were carrying their dry clothes in their swimming bags.

It would never occur to me to do that either to get to the car or get home if they live in the village.

The lifeguards were stunned!

Please tell me I was right to judge (but I'll be interested to hear any pacifists who can think of reasons why I should not have judged )

Hi Ceebee, yes its the one next to a duckpond one step along the motorway from me.

Are you going to that childs party again this year?

email changed recently anyway its [email protected]

I don't check it every day but I can't put my work one as its my rl name as the domain.

Ha ha do you fancy coming swimming on Fri we could see if they do it again

I don't remember the duckpond - is it in a village beginning with B?? I can't come this Friday but would love to come another week if you go regularly?

Yes I am going to the party - are you? If so, I think there may be some other children from your DSs' nursery there as our other mutual acquaintance's daughter is also having her party there at the same time, same day, same place...so DS1 has been double booked

Sorry - have just hi-jacked this thread

Yes both boys are going, so I'll see you there. 10 am? I haven't seen your littlun yet!

That will be fun if one of the children from the nursery is going - doesn't bother me one bit if mine aren't invited to all the parties but some mums get really when a non-invitee knows theres a party.

Wonder who it is...

Yes its in the village beginning with b. How you could miss that duckpond I have noooo idea, whenever we park on the car park we are practically attacked by geese and ducks hoping for some bread.

We go most Fridays. We can swap mobile numbers on Sat over a coffee then we can arrange a swim sometime.

Shall we just arrive and leave in our towells I am getting the impression here from this thread that no-one should give a hoot

In fact maybe that family were annoyed at having to get out when the public session ended and were just going to nip across the car park and carry on in the pond.

In that case I really ABU.

I haven't been to those baths since I left primary school so I have no idea what is around there (other than a cricket ground where DH has played cricket every year).

Will see you on Saturday (although I am going to have to split myself in half between the 2 parties to be sociable ) - btw, my DH is coming aswell so could you do me a favour and not mention what my MN posting name is?? Not that I keep secrets from him but I have just never told him what it is (is that really bad??)

No thats not bad, me and dp have a truce I don't ask him for his flickr name and he doesn't know my mumsnet one. I wouldn't dream of telling it him - he will just think that we met via you know who.

See you sat! I'll be the one arriving all harrassed cos its a truama getting my two up and out anywhere before lunchtime on a weekend.

Just need to do list of jobs for dp to do.

Hope I don't call your dp dp when I meet him

i am sure i know why

but i am not telling

I think it sounds like a brilliant idea. In fact I might do this next time we go swimming (and I live in a big city so lots of people to stare through car windows on the way home.

ds1 has severe eczema and his bathing routine is quite laborious after swimming. Drives the other dc potty, but has to be done so he doesn't look like I've attacked him with a cheese grater. fwiw you wouldn't know he had eczema by a quick look only - because I take a lot of care over his creaming we manage to keep it under control most of the time.

Maybe the people in question had similar reasons to not wanting to shower and dress at the pool. Or maybe they fancied a bit more privacy and warmer water than in usually available in public pools.

yabu

Oh we always did this when we were little - straight into the car, then into the bath together (me and little brother) when we got home!

A few years ago my mum saw a family leaving the pool in their swimming gear, not even a towel between them. Someone had stolen their clothes from the changing rooms!

Heh heh I think what the family did was ace, actually. If the weather's warm enough, then why not? Bare feet a bit silly, otherwise, meh.

The weather wasn't warm enough by my standards for running about in a damp towell.

Have established ibu becuase

they are australians on holiday here who had their clothes stolen and like to shower in private.

Slarty go on then tell us.

LOL, I would ve found this really funny- the sight I mean.

i spose i must be wrong, but thought perhaps they were going to get food or something, but maybe not if they were actually leaving the building.
clothes stolen quite possibly in that case

Maybe they ran there and after a swim were cycling home like a triathalon. No time to change.

When my DS has swimming lessons after school I never bother drying him and changing him, what's the point? He takes off wet trunks, dries himself and goes home in dressing gown. Even in winter he is unlikely to freeze to death as I live 2 mins from pool.

I think if their clothes had been stolen they might have mentioned it to the lifeguards and not left the building smiling cheerfully?