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jjsmum · 21/04/2009 19:38

Hi there

I am so so cheesed off, my cousin has 2 children 3 and 1 and I have 3 boys 7, 4 and 2.

Everyone in the family thinks the sun shines out her arse!! Her 3yr old swears and she is out getting paraletic every friday and saturday night (the mother not child lol)
Her facebook is constantly saying I wish these kids would shut up etc etc.

I am not saying I am the perfect mum beleive me I am far from it but I have taught my children manners and I watch my langauge around them. My home is homely - tidy but the kids pictures stuck on the fridge, toybox in the living room etc.

Anyway all I ever seem to hear from everyone is how fantastic she is and what a good parent she is, doesn't her ds1 talk really well etc.

Am I being unreasonable to wanting to tell them all to piss off and for feeling a bit jealous because no one comments on my parenting skills or tells me my children are doing well?

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jjsmum · 21/04/2009 19:39

Forgot to say her house is spotless you couldn't even tell a child lives there but apparently thats how my home should look.

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nametaken · 21/04/2009 19:43

It is annoying but it's just one of those things.

I used to have a friend who really was a lovely women in all respects apart from the one you mentioned (blowing her own trumpet) - the sad thing was, I always used to come away from her feeling really inferior and bad about myself. In the end I just stopped bothering with her which was a shame really as she did have some lovely points

You've got 2 choices

accept her as she is, warts and all
avoid her.

APerson · 21/04/2009 19:50

lay off her. I doubt she's that bad.
I'm sure she has someone watching the kids while she goes out, so she's entitled to have fun. as for the swearing, was it just one occassion you caught the child swearing? Kids do repeat what their parents say. If it was all the time and really bad swearing, I would be concerned.

you also don't say what her reaction is to the swearing, does she ignore or laugh or does she tell them off? As for FB, I say the same sort of thing about my dd, doesn't make me a bad mum...

concentrate on your own kids!

YABVU and very nasty!

picmaestress · 21/04/2009 20:01

Um, YABU. Sorry, but no-one expects any praise for their parenting skills do they?

It makes no difference who has a tidier house, some kids swear, some don't, frankly it'll all come out in the wash. And some people like going out and having a few drinks, if it affects the kids, then that's not great, but if it doesn't, then what's your problem with it?

I genuinely don't really get why you're annoyed, you sound like you're doing great...just don't bother getting worked up over anything to do with her...focus on your own sense of self worth and happiness.

chegirl · 21/04/2009 20:10

I am sure its really annoying but you need to ignore it.

Its not like others are comparing the two of you. It sounds more like you are comparing yourself with her.

Why bother? We are all different and we all have different priorities.

Stop feeling jealous, it takes a lot of energy and its pointless.

You sound like you are doing absolutly fine so why worry about her?

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