To want to move to a new area even though it would mean the dc changing schools ??

[NervousNutty]

I live in a house owned by a housing association and can advertise to swap houses if i like.

I would love to move to an area thats about 20 min away by car, or 15 min train journey.

Trouble is dd1 is due to start secondary school in Sept and I know she'd be dead set against moving and everyone seems to think i'd be really mean to make her.

The thing is, i feel a move would be good for all of us and that this has to be taken into account too. Everytime I mention it to anyone though they say 'oh no, wouldn't want to move schools would she'

AIBU to still want to do it ??

Is it not possible for your DD to travel to the original school? I agree it's a hard age to start afresh with different friendship groups etc., but plenty of people have done it. Can you take her to have a look around the school she would be going to if you changed her and see what she thinks?

You're right that it has to be about the whole family, but equally I think 11 year olds are at a bit of a wobbly stage and you need to tread carefully.

11 year olds do not get to decide where the whole family moves. Grownups do, because they can consider the effect on the whole family. 11 year olds are likely to think very short-term and a bit selfishly.

WHen moving up to secondary school friend groups get mixed up and cahnged about and left behind anyway, so in a way this is a good time to do it.

I agree with Trillian - it should be up to you, not your DD. She is only 11 and won't see the bigger picture. Even if it were to be a great move for the whole family she probably won't be able to see that until she is actually living it iyswim.

If you want to move, now is a good time, just when she is about to change schools and her schooling won't be unduly disrupted.

If you want to do it for good reasons then go for it.

why do you want to move?
Is there a good school near the new area?

loads of kids start afresh at secondary

better to move schools now than after she's started secondary, imo.

If it is best for the family to move, then move.

The move wouldn't be until after she'd started secondary really because you have to find someone who wants to swap with you first which can take a while.

I would only consider a move to the new area if I could get her into a particular school whos results are on a parr with the same one she is going to go to. The area I am in now has good schools too by the way.

Dd couldn't travel to the original schol because I couldn't afford the travel costs tbh.

There is no one reason in particular why I want to move there, I just have always loved the area and felt at home there.

Where I am now is nice and as i said above, it has good schools etc so i'd only make the move if it was too good to miss.

Wouldn't your DD be entitled to free travel to school? I thought that was the case all over the country- it certainly was when I was at school, and is now in London on buses and tubes. If it's only a 15min train journey I would do it. I had to travel 30mins on the bus to my secondary school, and plenty of kids came from further away by train and bus.

As far as I know there is no free or subsidised travel as term time bus passes etc are advertised all over the buses I travel on.