to hate all the veiled woe is me comments on Facebook that are obviously just there for attention

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Have been on FB for ages and the same old people seem to post the same old crap over and over again. What has got my goat today is one particular person who puts things on her status like "X can't believe the terrible thing that happenned today" or "X feels like no-one is on her side bearing in mind what is happenning to me right now" etc etc then when people (me included) ask if she is ok she then doesn't bother to reply. I just don't understand it at all.

Does anyone else have friends who do similar things on FB?

my friends are all bizarre. and usually post about what they're having for tea or the dream they had last night.

I know what you mean though, we all have facebook 'friends' that are just people we know and not actual friends, and then we end up getting sucked into the hellish misery of their private lives every time we log on. Someone I had had a professional relationship went through a nasty marriage break up and shared her innermost husband hating moments with her 200 or so close personal gfriends on FB.
Twas fascinating in a car-crash sort of way

Yep! Drives me nuts. I ignore them usually. It's all very passive "poor me". I have a friend who does it in real life and that's beginning to get a bit much too.

oh yes, sooooo annoying. I have one in particular, she's actually my cousin.
It's just as you say, and it really pisses me off! It's supposed to be a bit of fun, and you get people pouring their heart out and telling the world their business!

"x doesn't know if it will work out with y"
"x is broken hearted, my relationship is over"
then 1 day later
"x is off to the cinema with y tonight, I love him sooooo much"

arrrrrrrrrrrgh!!

And I have just seen a friend of mine has become a fan of naked cuddles, sex, kinky sex, and sex toys. Not entirely sure she wants to shout about that tbh. Her mum is on her friends page!

OMG - Crackopenthebaieys. Different person but I know someone who fits that exact description. She is in the first throesof a new relationship and talks about him all the time when he is also on her friends list. Does she not realise what he must be thinking when she says things like "X doesn't know if Y is going to call her - I thought it went sooo well" etc. She has also just beomce a fan of naked cuddles in bed with her mum on her friends list too!

Dont bother asking if she is ok in future then

I have a friend like that on facebook.

"X knew today was going to be a disaster"

prompting "why what's happened?" questions and she either doesn't reply or just puts "Oh, everything, I feel so down" hence more "are you ok?" questions.

Facebook drives me mad, but I can't give it up

A girl know has been having a period of emotional crisis, relating to her ex boyf. All info has been updated on FB for all (or anyone who is remotely interested to see).

So all her status have been doom and gloom etc.

Yesterday her status informs us "IM IN LOVE", folowing recent traumatic lovelife tales, we all type in a frenzy -
"who with?"
"tell us more"
"you kept that one quiet" etc etc.

Her reply (hours later)-
" vin disal" ( actually spelt like that)

This is a 35 year old mother of three FFS

There are couple of people like this on my facebook, but is quite funny in a way as anyone who knows them obviously takes no notice, they recieve no comments on their attention seeking posts.

Oh I have one too...."X wants to get out of here and never come back" "x is sick of it all" "X cant take this anymore". Tedious.
I also really hate the outlandish show off status updates such as
"X is going to book her really bloody expensive luxury holiday today"
"X is sharing a seven course meal with her wonderful hubby that has been lovingly made by her beautiful children. Ohhhh how I love my lifffeee!"
Ugh.

Though, to be fair, I am obviously just a bit bitter and jealous about the show off ones.....

So what else do you put. The status is there purely for putting silly stuff like that, otherwise why bother? I have over 100 'friends' but really only read the profiles of those I'm close to so I don't really care what the others put!

I've got one who is constantly posting 'X is doing X and Y and Z, oh and A and B and C as well' (all of which are rather tedious domestic tasks/DIY/childcare/work). To which my (unwritten) response is 'Well, then, if it's so stressful, DON'T paint the bloody coffee table'

at some of these FB friends of ours. Especially Anniemac's example. I just think that if something is that bad that you post it on your status and then receive concerned replies you should acknowledge them rather than ignore them.

Another bug bear are the passive aggressive status's. Eg "X is fed up with certain people, you know who you are" etc, cue lots of people wondering if it is about them or not. And lol at the people who post such intimate details about themselves. Someone I used to work with updates in text speak regularly about the tiffs and sexy makeups she has with her BF. I don't need to know that he has an amazing tongue, thanks all the same love

I 'did' have afamily member like that but now I've deleted her

Happens on here too though. You get a thread with an "oh shit/ oh dear/ oh my..." title and the op is what?

it is

I know one is supposed to feel sympathetic, but tbh I just want to shake them

Just say what's fucking WRONG instead of wanting the attention of people dragging it out of you.

I guess you get it everywhere from reading some of the replies on here. I used to manage a girl at work who came into work looking stressed and agitated. I took her aside to ask if she was ok and to see if I could help with anything. She said it was personal and she did not want to talk about it. Fine, I thought. However she then apent hours sat at her desk sighing heavily and saying "I am so worried", "its so awful" "I just can't believe it" This prompted lots of people to ask if she was ok but she wouldn't talk to them either but still gave us a running commentary on her feelings for the whole day. WTF???? Either talk about it, go home to sort it out (she refused to do this either)or just shut the fuck up. Its really not difficult is it?

Oh definitely . There is one person on my facebook , who is always down about something . Always complaining about her family etc etc . I just think , oh for goodness sake grow up !

Oh you are SO right. I can't bear those needy, attention seeking statuses. In fact, I have deleted people for that very reason

Moaning twats.

YANBU. If you want to have a good moan come on MN instead

another one who has deleted a family member for the passive agressive updates.

No time for it.

I like status messages I can just click "i like" to!

Oh, I know someone who says things like that. There's a lot of "I'm so lonely and bored today". 20 mins later, "wondering why no-one is responding to me being soooo bored". Half an hour later, "hoping someone will suggest going out as am soooo lonely today, and can't understand why my friends are so useless". This goes on and on. FFS. I hasten to add it's not one of my friends; I see it all looking over DP's shoulder when he checks his Facebook, as am terribly nosy.

I did once post my status as "Gentle is pissed off" because I had just broken a vase that I really liked and it was raining and I was a bit poorly.

Suddenly 17 people that I haven't seen for donkeys were commenting "Oh no, what's wrong hun?!" Seemed a bit disappointed when I quickly amended it to "Gentle just broke a vase and the weather is plop." I never made that mistake again.

It can be fun though when someone you know quite well in real life posts something like "Janet has some exciting secrets!" Always fun to not ask that person how they are for the next 4 weeks.

I think Facebook brings out the worst in me. I've seriously considered giving it up, but it does have its benefits too (birthday reminders, keeping in touch with family en masse, etc.)

God no, I hate that whiny attention seeking.

I also do not like status updates that end with '.....lol xxx'

grrrr.

bugger, well mine today says "is ready for bed with a hot water bottle" as i have major cramps!
Normally put things like, cancer sucks, keep youjr kids at home of they have chicken pox, is enjoy a lovely day, mondays suck and such. Am I moaning too much?