That my separated husband of 2 months thinks I shouldn't be upset if he wants to see other people?

[idontlikethisperson]

he hasn't yet...but he can't understand why I would be upset?

This split in his words "was the only way to go". Therefore meaning perhaps to resolve. Oh no, in his mind not to.

But he can't understand why I'd be fuming at him seeing anyone else. Esp as we have a 2yr DD.

He's pushed my mental health to the limit and now he can't understand why I'd be upset!

I'm sorry I do have feelings and it's very hurtful to be cast aside and feel that he's looking out for a better model?

AIBU?

Of course yanbu to hurt. He is being insensitive.

But in his defense in a relationship, if it has ended sometimes all of the feelings you have go to. ANd it is hard to realise that the other person still has feelings towards you (especially if you lack empathy).

Also he may feel different in reality if you were the first to start a new relationship. I bet he thinks that no way would that happen.

it sounds a bit as if he is on an emotional powertrip and trying to hurt you. Otherwise most people would just keep a relationship, especially a hypothetical one under wraps.