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To have wanted to punch this woman in the face and stomp on her head?

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TheLadyEvenstar · 19/04/2009 22:37

I went shopping today and there was a woman with her 2 children a girl of about 7 or 8 and a little boy who looked to be roughly the same age. the woman was unloading her trolley outside the shopping centre and the little boy put his hand on the trolley, his hand touched the bag...the bitch mother then punched him straight in the back of the head!!
Needless to say he started crying so she then grabbed him and smacked him, i was with ds1 and ds2, I got between the woman and little boy I then sent ds1 to find a security guard who came back with him.

The mother started shouting at me to get out the way as she would be disciplining him the same way if she was back home,I told her she was not back home and i refused to move until the security guard came, spoke to me spoke to the mother and took my number, i had to leave as i really didn't trust myself to not return to her what she gave the little boy. I came away in tears almost....and so angry. The security guard called the police (i saw from the bus-stop) i have not heard from them...do you think they have taken action?

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Ronaldinhio · 19/04/2009 22:39

Bloody hell

Well done you, you did the right thing
Poor little guy...there will have been some action taken if the police have been called.

Why not phone the supermarket or nearby policestation to say you want to make a statement?

edam · 19/04/2009 22:39

That's horrible. So glad you stepped in. The police might well have spoken to her without needing to contact you (yet). I hope so, anyway.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 19/04/2009 22:41

It was so horrible, all he had fooking done was touch the trolley! he just keot saying I didn't mummy i didn't, she thought he was taking shopping out of the bags.

I so wanted to do the same to her

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tattifer · 19/04/2009 22:43

It would have been logged (as a witness you might be given the log number) as a concern for welfare (hopefully) which as there are children involved would initiate (should do) a form called a 121A (in Devon and Cornwall) which flags up that the family has had contact with the police and why to other agencies (who probably know about her already).

MrsMcCluskey · 19/04/2009 22:44

Did you leave your details?
The Police wont be able to do a lot without a witness ( you) as the boy may/ may not make a complaint against his mum.
Poor boy and good for you for doing something positive.

Ronaldinhio · 19/04/2009 22:44

It's made me really cross reading it

I cannot abide anything at all like that. My dh thinks I'll end up knifed over it.

nigglewiggle · 19/04/2009 22:45

Well done you. Did you leave any details so that you could be contacted as a witness? If you are willing, and you sound like a fearless soul make sure that you can be contacted for a statement if necessary.

tattifer · 19/04/2009 22:45

Did the security guard also witness the behaviour?

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TheLadyEvenstar · 19/04/2009 22:45

I gave the security guard my details, I really had to get away as I did not trust myself really i didn't. DS1 was really shaken up cos he saw me getting angry and asked me to leave....

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milkwhitebreasts · 19/04/2009 22:47

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Cazzaben · 19/04/2009 22:47

WELL DONE YOU!!! Thats such an awful thing to see.

My mum used to do things like that to me and my sisters and I always wished someone like you would tell her what for...

Poor little guy. Hopefully you'll get a call as its now illegal to do this to children even if they are your own...

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TheLadyEvenstar · 19/04/2009 22:48

Tatt, no it was a shopping centre and this happened outside...what made it worse were the amount of parents whi just tutted and walked past as it happened. Even men just tutted or raised the eyebrows. Only after i stepped between them did anyone say anything.

I was so glad DP was driving the bus today as I got a much needed hug when it turned up. I was so shaken up well angered more than anything.

I did leave my number but have heard nothing yet...it was so sad

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Simplysally · 19/04/2009 22:49

You did the right thing - I would ring your local police station tomorrow and ask to give a witness statement so it's documented at least. I hate the idea of children being hurt .

MrsMcCluskey · 19/04/2009 22:49

You may well be contacted by Child Protection Officers tomorrow if they want to take a statement from you.
If you dont heaar anyhting you could contact the local Cp team for your area and ask if they did anything.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 19/04/2009 22:50

Milk, no i didn't thats why I walked away as I knew I was so angry. this little lad had done nothing and the violent bitch punched him for touching a trolley.

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LauriefairycakeeatsCupid · 19/04/2009 22:50

It's a perfectly natural reaction to want to punch this woman in the head.

Well done you for taking control of yourself and walking away

lisad123 · 19/04/2009 22:50

well done you, hope someone helps that poor lad. So many would have done nothing tbh.

monkeypinkmonkey · 19/04/2009 22:50

yey to you. Poor little thing

hobbgoblin · 19/04/2009 22:51

Just to be a contrary arse I'd have asked if she and he were okay. If i'd got a gobfull then, then I may have reported the details.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 19/04/2009 22:52

Lisa so many DID walk past. tbh i did a double take as I was so unsure of what I had seen. DS1 just said OMG mum did you see what she did to him

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TrinityIsGettingABabyRhino · 19/04/2009 22:53

well done you
milk- wanting to and doing it are two different things
when reading I weanted to but I wouldn't
well done op for doing something

hobbgoblin · 19/04/2009 22:54

Only because this was what I had to do at work when I worked for an anti-smacking organisation.

Even though the charity policy was vehemently anti physical punishment we were always told to offer support to both the adult and the child and this kind of resonates with me.

isittooearlyforgin · 19/04/2009 22:54

sometimes someone who uses violence casually uses violence doesn't see it as a bad thing - just completely normal, so having someone with the courage to make a fuss interveneing can make them think twice about their actions (hopefully) well done you for getting involved - lots wouldn't

RumourOfAHurricane · 19/04/2009 22:54

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isittooearlyforgin · 19/04/2009 22:55

PS: maybe i should think twice about my spelling/grammar!