UPDATE on should I have told ExH new GF something. Not good...

[Paranoidornot]

Well the fall out has now come. The new GF has put all over FB that I am an evil vindictive bullying bitch. Nice.

She has sent me a text asking if i am still in love with him and then this classic;

"My daughter is fine she's happy she's loved and wanted and has two parents that work together. More than i can say for your daughter who is going to grow up an evil cow. Sour faced. An evil bully who looks down on people cause she went to university, which any one can do these days. she's going to grow up just like you. Ifeel sorry for the poor little girl, hopefully when she's old enough to make a decision she'll leave you. Honey you are a nasty piece of work"

So to those who said that she would blame me - you were right!

I take it IANBU if I never let her anywhere near my daughter???

sounds like they deserve each other - leave them to it and get off FB or block them from it and don't look at their stuff.

You were silly but continuing to have any level of interaction with her (them?) after this would just bring you down to their level.

Pmsl @ sparklingsarah lording it over the op whilst arguing on a website.

I think we may have actually been married to exactly the same person.

I'm not going to go into all the things that he and his new girlfriend did on here because its too early in the morning for a rant and i've got a cold.

All i will say is this. I do not get drawn into any arguments with my ex or his girlfriend.

He never see's my son anymore. I don't chase him for contact I wait for him to contact me and usually whatever arrangements are made he never sticks to them. Have posted recently about this.

i have also been made out to be a mental bitch by my ex-husband he can say what he wants to his girlfriend. she is never going to know or believe the other side of the story. I have tried to explain things too her but he has just talked his wa out of it. (my ex husband too was driving around without a licence for ten years).

All this has only come to light since I have become friendly with the mother of his daughter who I too thought was a complete mental bitch.

I've seen both sides of it. Whatever my exh said about his ex i always believed.

of course you always want to believe the man you love don't you.

i feel like a right tit now but a leopard generally doesn't change its spots and from what my son tells me my exh and his gf spend all the time shouting and screaming at each other. WHile i've moved onto have a much happier life.

In short. ignore them both, whatever he tells her she will believe and he will stick up for her even though she has said terrible things about your child because he cant' lose face and has too.

I'm sorry to go on and on. hope this helps in some tiny (bitter) way.

Paranoidornot, if his car is still untaxed/unmoted (and you know that for a fact) please shop him. You may be protecting your dd from it by not letting him drive her but each and every time he takes that car out he is risking injuring someone in an accident, or writing off another person's car, and they would get very little compensation if he isn't insured, which he won't be if his car doesn't have tax or an mot.

Eeeek....but can't say I'm surprised at all.

Agree with those who've said you need to stop all contact with her, take the high road and don't reply to any texts or messages on facebook. She's very immature for broadcasting all that on FB, but you'll only make it worse by responding/retaliating.

And forget about trying to convince her that your XP was the one who originally made the 'thick' comment. She'll never believe you, and he'll never admit it. Just take it as lesson learned.

What happened is unfortunate, but you apologised and I think have really learned from it. You have your reasons for making your XP go through courts for access, and you should stick to them. You also have your reasons for not wanting contact between your XP's new GP and your child, but you must be careful to stress that it's due to the longevity of the relationship rather than this incident.

I wouldn't let my children go in an untaxed uninsured car. That's just negligent. if he turns up in an untaxed car I'd tell him he can take her on bus or push chair but not in car.