For not wanting to stay at partners tonight?

[RolyPolyRoly]

A few days ago newish DP invited me around to stay at his house tonight. I agred, we arranged bottle of wine and DVDs.

I know he was looking forward to it but I really don't want to go anymore. I feel all washed out, sicky and clammy, I'm "on" which will worry me all weekend as I'm heavy at the moment and I have a job interview on Monday which I really want to prepare for properly.

Basically I'm just not in the mood and I want to stay at home, by myself and relax.

I phoned to tell him I'm not feeling well and he replied "thats ok, I still want you to come" so I was like "no, I mean I feel really crap, maybe I should just meet you tomorow and we'll do what we had arranged" and he said "No, come tonight. I don't mind you being ill, I'll look after you"

FFS I mind being ill! AIBU here? I know he's disapointed but you'd think he's understand that if someone's feeling crap, they're not going to want to stay out all night?

I think he was just being sweet.

I don't think YABU. Just tell him that as much as you're disappointed you can't make it, you'd feel much better in your own home, getting a bath and going straight to bed, hopefully feeling better for what you had planned with each other tomorrow.

Yes I know he was trying to be nice but sometimes I wish he'd just "think" a little more. He's always so wrapped up in his own little bubble he never seems to think outside of it.

Is he a man,by any chance?

Compromise and he comes to yours for dinner and then back to his?

Is he expecting sex?

Don't go, if your anything like me and you feel like this, the best solution is for you to be on your own BUT I can see why he's disappointed and I think he's just being kind. Don't be grumpy with him, I think he sounds a nice sort of bloke.

Interested why you have posted this twice in two different topics?

Have you decided what you will do?