To think that it is not too damn difficult to have your children 24 hours out of a week!!!!!

[norksinmywaistband]

Need to rant and se if IABU.

H has just been to pick up children for weekend access. Arrived an hour and a half early, so I had not packed overnight bags etc.
He made no effort to assist in bag packing til I suggested it might be useful as I was trying to sort DC's lunch.
Hung around while DC cried they did not want to go, making no attempt to encourage them that they would have fun ETC, left that to me to do.
Informed me that he was not feeling well so not to have a drink tonight in case I had to go and pick them up later tonight(FFS what does he thinks happens when I am ill)

SO aibu to expect him to want to have the DC once a week without moaning and to turn up at the prearranged time

No YANBU.

What a dick

God why are some men soooo useless??

Switch your phone and let him get on with it.

Go out! Or don't screen the phone calls. He is being a prize A1 pillock. Can't imagine why you are no longer together.

YANBU

but you are being daft if you let him treat you and the kids like this again.

No. YANBU

eejit

yanbu he sounds like a prize prat- although I can understand the not taking over the bag packing until asked - it's not his house

I know, And this is the guy who is trying to persuade me to give it another go don't think he has quite honed those persuasive skills

Is he on a promise for tonight or something and the children might cramp his style?
Dickhead.

the poor dcs, did they pick up it do you think?
hope he is off doing something nce with them

FAQ you are right about the bag packing. one of my main issues with him is he is passively controlling and we have had long discussions about that this week.
but to be honest it is the first time he as ever actually considered it to be my house if that is what it was and not just being lazy

I felt a lump in my throat putting them in the car, they are only 3&4 but I need this break once a week, I have so much going on in my head regarding the split and find I have no me time to address it, plus seeing as I haven't had a full night sleep ( with the exception of when he has had them overnight) in the last 3 years, I think I deserve it

Love, you don't have to justify wanting a break.

ENJOY IT.

You do deserve it. Lie on the sofa and eat chocolate.