Would you have been offended by this?

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HagridsHut · 15/04/2009 22:35

Stayed at DP's house with my kids and his DD on Monday night. All the kids (the 3 of them) were very hyper and quite naughty, showing off etc.

Anyway later in the night DP said "It will be nice if you could stay over one night when the boys are with their dad ... it will be just me, you and DD ... "

I didn't think too much about it at the time but now I'm a bit would you be offended by this? I am ...

I know he isn't against my kids being over there as he has just bought them a new bed today and has been doing up the spare room for them ... so maybe I'm dwelling on the comment too much?

what do you reckon?

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silkcushion · 15/04/2009 22:39

no I wouldn't take offense

poopscoop · 15/04/2009 22:41

i would be offended. If he had said just the 2 of you, the fair enough but because he mentioned DD being there, i would not like that.

theDreadPirateRoberts · 15/04/2009 22:42

Isn't this the guy who wouldn't do anything to help with the arguments and discipline when you stayed over before though? There's some vague warning bells ringing for me, re his accepting your DSs into 'his' family...

paolosgirl · 15/04/2009 22:45

This would bother me - why doesn't he want your kids there, but wants his DD? Sorry, the alarm bells would be ringing for me. It could be that he's just not used to there being more than one child there, and boys do tend to be a bit more boisterous having 2 of my own (yes, generalisation, I know!) - but still...

ChippingIn · 15/04/2009 22:48

After the night you had, are you suprised??

[http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=am_i_being_unreasonable&threadid=738935-To-think- partner-could-have-done-more#15086121 Original AIBU]

I think you two have a lot of talking to do before you think about moving in together!!

On the kinder side - maybe he wants you to get to know his daughter better without the distraction of the boys??

...Maybe... btbh, I think your styles of parenting need to be discussed and find a middle ground, for both of you, to both apply, to all the kids.

ChippingIn · 15/04/2009 22:49

Oops - try again...

partner-could-have-done-more#15086121 Original AIBU

screamingabdab · 15/04/2009 22:59

This all sounds a bit ominous to me, as ChippingIn says (I read the other thread, too).

He does not sound like he's prepared to put the hard work in, as things stand

StewieGriffinsMom · 15/04/2009 23:01

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