to be royally pissed off with DH?

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Dh went out last night at 6.30, he rolled in about 3.15, obviously worse for wear.

He came to bed at 4am and when I left for work he was still snoring (I was seething and arranged for sil to come and get kids earlier than planned)

I've just rung him to make sure he is out of bed etc and has got the dc ready, made sure they have had breakfast etc and he gave me a right earful saying that when I have a lie in on a Sunday and he is at work I leave the dc downstairs to get their own cereal etc (they are 10 and 7).

Surely the difference being,when I have a lie in, I've not got in pissed up at stupid o'clock and I'm not still in bed drunk.

Needless to say that I hung up on him when he started being arsey etc. (He does this every few weeks or so)

Needless to say he can fuck off with the night we had planned tonight, I will be going to be earlier as last night when I woke at midnight and there was no sign of him I was nattered and couldn't get back to sleep.

So aibu at being royally pissed off with him?

No you're not.

yabu

the effect on the children is the same, they can get their own cereal with you and with him.

If you're pissed off he stayed out, say so. (still wouldn't be right)

Don't make it about cereal and getting the kids ready.

hmmmm. if they are capable of feeding themselves usually, then maybe you are being a bit unreasonable, no doubt because you are tired.

however, the difference is, if you are just having a lie in, you are not in a deep drunken sleep or lying still due to a terrible hangove

i don;t think you should cancel your night out, you are making this into a massive issue

if you are cross he was back so late and you were worried and did not sleep, TELL HIM!!

why is SIL looking after them if he has the day off lazy bugger

sorry, agree with Laurie.

but if this is a regular thing and you're not happy with it, then you need to tell him.

am very that you get a lie in every sunday though !

Do you really need to ask if you're being unreasonable? I'd be livid.

I don't mind him going at at all, but, if he decides to have a late one I would appreciate a text off him to let me know (he knows this, we have had this conversation many many times).

laurie, I wanted to make sure he is up so that he is not shouting at them later when he is running late and trying to get himself and them ready.

Lulu, we weren't going to have a night out, just a nice night in, but, he will still be feeling rough and will end up going to bed early anyway etc.

Compo, sil wasn't going to have them all day, they were going to go shopping etc and bring them back at lunch.

Mankymummy, my lie-in consists of being sandwiched between two kids and a cat, one watching tele and the other one reading my books etc, so it's no a lie-in as such lol

ah right... the lie ins that you get from age 0 to age 10... maybe im not so envious now !

My DH got in at 3 am today (but it was a special occasion) - but got up at 6.30 to get ready for work, and got ds1 and ds2 ready while I was feeding ds3. He's no doubt feeling it at work now!

I was going to say YANBU, but your post has made me feel maybe I'm a teeny bit spoilt. Mind you, I did have a rough night of it last night - combination of teething baby, thunderstorms, and DH getting in late (always find it difficult to get off to sleep if I'm imagining DH under a train or something) so I'm feeling some of your pain!

yabu. there's no difference between your lie in and his lie in with regards the kids feeding themselves.
you decided to call sil and change the arrangements rather than just let him get on with it hungover, he never asked you to.