to be hoping that i am pregnant?

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i am so stupid to be even thinking this.

i am not very fertile.

i have two children and they were hard to come by! we tried for a 3rd for ages but nothing happened and i was fed up with always hoping every month and nothing happening.

so dh had the snip.

he hasn't had confirmation that it worked yet but we haven't been bothering using contraception as i don't get pregnant-right?

i am due on around now and for some stupid reason am thinking 'oh god-i wonder if i am pregnant'

now i couldn't get pregnant BEFORE he was sterilised i am not going to be pregant now!

but does this feeling ever go away? or wll i still be wondering when the menopause hits?

oh come on-don't ignore after i've gone to all the effort of namechanging!

Hmmmm my DH has had the snip they did a test of his sperm three months after the op to make sure I would know from then onwards that I would never be pregnant, did that not happen in your case ?
Vasectomies are extremely effective these days.

Well, you never know How would you feel if you were??

Not very likely though is it....

Why did you bother name changing??

he's submitted one sample and is due to submit a second. then we find out.

because i am regular and known and it's a bit personal.

honestly-i'd be thrilled if i was.

How long ago did he have the snip? Has he been given the all clear from his doctor. Cos it can take months for sperm levels to drop and vasectomy doesn't work for some men at all.

sorry if i'm being thick.... but why on earth did dh have a vasectomy if you feel this way and want another dc??

Well if you are, well that is great and if you are not then hug your family close and start to move on though this may take time.

FWIW I have taken many years to come to terms with the fact that I have 2 children and no more. Wanted 4.

Heigh ho.

Shall we cross our fingers for you ?

I was going to ask that too..... why didn't you just let nature take it's course?

because it wasn't happening.
and we had been through it all before
and quite frankly-not conceiving makes me bonkers.

and we are getting old.

so we decided that rather than endlessly wndering if this month we would be pregnant we would make a positive decison to be happy with the family we have and give up. totally.

You're not being unreasonable HOWEVER it probably is wishful thinking....like you said, how likely is it really? You've acknowledged that you're not the most fertile person AND your dh has had the snip

But i do know how you feel...
dh is due to have the snip in the next month or so and I feel like this is my last chance to get pregnant (but we're not trying!)And i keep thinking, what if the condom bursts? What if? Not that it's likely though...

I took a pregnancy test the other week as i had really bad stomach pains and nausea (turns out I was just sick) - but you have to check, just in case!

I do understand!

thanks tiger for understanding. what i am really asking is when the feeling goes? will i always be longing for what wasn't?

contolfreaky.... i'd imagine because the knicker checking every month and constant elation and devestation and wondering 'am i?' was taking over her life.

it's exhausting.