My grandparents are both in their 80's and fairly fed up and down.
They are dependent on other family members to a large extent. The only thing that seems to cheer them up is to see my DD.
We took her round (try to go at least fortnightly) the other day and my DH was cross because of the lack of effort at baby friendly that they have made.
DD is 15 months and very active.
Their house is very cluttered but its because they are both lacking in energy and can not afford a cleaner. My mum and her siblings do clean for them but my grandma refuses to have anything thrown out so the place is covered with old newspapers etc.
DH was annoyed and said I should have a word but IMO they are just too elderly/poorly/tired to make the effort.
My grandma has a tray which is attached to legs and wheels for her to walk around and she stores medicines on it, obviously to my DD this was a great toy. As she was reaching up I was constantly moving things from harms way, medicines, a knife and half eaten foods etc.
I think leave it be and just be ultra careful whilst visiting. I am sure that they would be very upset if I had asked them to put things out of harms way.
But saying that there was a bottle of bleach stood within the soft drinks rank, I know they have child locks on but it still worried me.
I would only ever say something in a friendly way (of course) and DH wants me to but I am wondering whether it just causes more upset than anything. We arent there frequently and she is never left alone with them.